It's good to hear that Tre.
Hope things progress in a manageable way, and that there is a general improvement.
Hope things progress in a manageable way, and that there is a general improvement.
Reality bites-this is not how I thought it would be
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I am so sorry about your wife, Bill. I believe you made the kindest decision, out of love for her, and your presence when you visit will comfort her I have no doubt.
That's good news tre. There's obviously more to come. Don't know if you've ever tried this but a little olive oil applied in the right place can get things moving sometimes. It certainly can't do any harm.
Tre, I'm sorry I have no advice to offer, but I am so very sorry about this situation, which seems untenable for you both. I hope you are able to get through to the GP or district nurse or someone with some authority to organise some help for you, and quickly.
We are here to listen and offer support. If you get a chance, please update us when it's convenient for you.
We are here to listen and offer support. If you get a chance, please update us when it's convenient for you.
No improvement and he is mostly really drowsy although when I roused him earlier to see if he would take his meds, which he did, and some water, having hardly spoken he then quite clearly said "thank you". I spoke to the GP earlier and the doctor is coming out to see him. Not sure when but we are not going anywhere, probably most likely after morning surgery.
I have no idea where we go from here. I have put off telling his sons and his sister until the GP has been as if I call them now I will only have to call again later and they are all geographically distant so there is nothing they can do except worry.
Tre
I have no idea where we go from here. I have put off telling his sons and his sister until the GP has been as if I call them now I will only have to call again later and they are all geographically distant so there is nothing they can do except worry.
Tre
I hope gp can help tre but I suspect you need to be prepared for a move to hospital. If his gut isn't moving still I suspect there isn't much more you can do at home.
Please don't feel there is anything you are failing in, there are some things you just cannot overcome.
Hoping David will get back to himself once his gut empties itself.
I think it's wise to wait until gp has been before you contact family, no point in putting yourself through the stress of doing it twice.
Take care of yourself as well
Please don't feel there is anything you are failing in, there are some things you just cannot overcome.
Hoping David will get back to himself once his gut empties itself.
I think it's wise to wait until gp has been before you contact family, no point in putting yourself through the stress of doing it twice.
Take care of yourself as well
I think Bemused may be right tre but I do hope he doesn't end up in hospital. Surely what is required can be administered at home whilst the medical staff involved stay to monitor the situation?
GP has been and pharmacy will deliver something else to try that I can give orally to try to get his bowels sorted. DN has phoned and will call in again later today. She says she has fast tracked us for a care package. GP had talked of the Rapid Response Team but that is apparently not up and running here yet.
GP also thinks he has a low grade chest infection and some oral penicillin will be delivered today.
GP is also calling in the Hospice Nurse. I asked whether this means they think he will not come out of this and she said that we will know in a few days if he is responding to the treatment. They are giving him a chance and we just need to wait to see if he responds.
Also something called a Just in Case set of meds is being sent for use if he deteriorates rapidly.
So it seems the next few days are critical.
I am still in shock at how quickly this has all happened.
I am pleased that he can be at home as he gets extremely distressed in hospital and it is calmer for him here.
Tre
GP also thinks he has a low grade chest infection and some oral penicillin will be delivered today.
GP is also calling in the Hospice Nurse. I asked whether this means they think he will not come out of this and she said that we will know in a few days if he is responding to the treatment. They are giving him a chance and we just need to wait to see if he responds.
Also something called a Just in Case set of meds is being sent for use if he deteriorates rapidly.
So it seems the next few days are critical.
I am still in shock at how quickly this has all happened.
I am pleased that he can be at home as he gets extremely distressed in hospital and it is calmer for him here.
Tre
Thankfully some good news amongst the less good tre. I really feared David would end up in hospital.things that you need are coming together and I hope things become a little easier for you.
I still hope that if his bowel can be cleared he may improve. Am hoping so .
Take care of yourself. Xxx
I still hope that if his bowel can be cleared he may improve. Am hoping so .
Take care of yourself. Xxx
Hi, I have been following your thread, didn't respond as I had no good advice to offer you, but just want to say I am pleased you are able to keep your husband home, I have experience of two of the hospitals in Herts area, with my Mum, not good experiences and we also try to keep Mum from being admitted. I hope the next prescriptions work for your husband and will be thinking of you both. I also hope you get support very quickly, you shouldn't have to deal with this on your own. Take care xx
Ange
Ange
care homes and bowel movements sorry about the title
hubby has been in care now for several months ,at times he walks lop sided there seems to be no reason for this.visiting him the weekend he needed the toilet he was so constipated it made him cry, asked for some medication to help this,this i think was done BUT having looked up on the constipation thing it seems that it can some times effect their balance. next visit he was much better, so am going to ask for some medication to help him with the toilet,has any one else come across this
hubby has been in care now for several months ,at times he walks lop sided there seems to be no reason for this.visiting him the weekend he needed the toilet he was so constipated it made him cry, asked for some medication to help this,this i think was done BUT having looked up on the constipation thing it seems that it can some times effect their balance. next visit he was much better, so am going to ask for some medication to help him with the toilet,has any one else come across this
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Marmalade, I definitely have seen that effect in the past. David is much more poorly now so cannot stand but I think it is to do with limited effective brain power because of the dementia so anything which diverts the concentration on walking and being upright such as constipation will cause unsteadiness.
Tre
Tre
Just sending you as much strength as possible
Do you take rescue remedy or anything to help you with the shock?
Please accept hospice nurses if they are offered - I found them very good in the past.
My mum even went to the local hospice day centre one day a week, they were wonderful.
My dad passed away in a hospice,but even then they did all they could to give him a fighting chance. I can well understand that you dont want a hospital, but a hospice will help both of you .
Do you take rescue remedy or anything to help you with the shock?
Please accept hospice nurses if they are offered - I found them very good in the past.
My mum even went to the local hospice day centre one day a week, they were wonderful.
My dad passed away in a hospice,but even then they did all they could to give him a fighting chance. I can well understand that you dont want a hospital, but a hospice will help both of you .
