We had a routine visit from the memory clinic nurse today. My OH is 20 months post diagnosis of vascular dementia following a stroke. His condition has been deteriorating and his ability to converse or express his needs pretty poor. I carry on talking to him about general stuff going on but only get a nod in reply. Well, the nurse endeavoured to complete the memory test with him. It was so awful at one point I had to try not to laugh when he kept saying 'tuesday' to most of the questions - and its Wednesday anyway! He scored zero but it made me realise how little he can process of the spoken word. I feel more compassionate somehow at how scary his world must be and will try to hang on to this when we get into an 'impasse' when he doesn't understand my simple instruction to have a pee!