Reading

Helly68

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Mar 12, 2018
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I was always enjoyed books but never the type Mum might like,and so am struggling to choose. Can I pick your brains, do you have any recommendations for books to try, I have ordered a couple of 'grown up' poetry collections but have no idea where to start in the kids section to find something Mum might like.
Bryan - does she have any interests? Animals, travel? Even magazines - cookery, sport, clothes etc can work.

I would say, have a look in the children's reference section of a library, Dorling Kindersley publish lots of reference type books - animals, science, maps etc Lots of pictures and some text. Start with an interest she has.

If you are unsure, try borrowing children's books from the library. I choose classic titles, because we remember these - so Dr Seuss - Cat in the Hat or Green Eggs and Ham if she likes humour and ryhme. If you had books you enjoyed as a child, this may be a way in as she may remember reading them with you.
We also had success with the nonsense verse of Edward Lear - again a bit old fashioned but the nonsense element works well as she just likes the sounds of the words, they don't have to mean anything.
 

BryanG2001

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Mar 2, 2014
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All the interests have gone, apart from folding things, no jokes about books on origami please. She loves children but remember that I will be ordering the book, and an old man (me) wanting books about children opens up a world of wrong. She does like silly things and enjoys making faces and joking with her carers. Getting to a library would use time that I don't really have, though maybe I could make it a trip out for Mum, but again, old man in children's section doesn't look so good. I think ordering online is the safest.
 

jugglingmum

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Jan 5, 2014
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It depends on where you're mum is at.

I was going to suggest libraries - ask at the counter and they might be helpful, they get older men getting books out for grandchildren

I've noticed my son still has horrible science on his shelf so might try that and also horrible histories, I know my mum would have found these really funny once. They are a boy fart level of joke.

My mum always liked gardening so I was thinking a book about gardening for her.

You can preview books on Amazon - just have a look
 

Helly68

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Mar 12, 2018
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All the interests have gone, apart from folding things, no jokes about books on origami please. She loves children but remember that I will be ordering the book, and an old man (me) wanting books about children opens up a world of wrong. She does like silly things and enjoys making faces and joking with her carers. Getting to a library would use time that I don't really have, though maybe I could make it a trip out for Mum, but again, old man in children's section doesn't look so good. I think ordering online is the safest.
I would definitely order online. Amazon does do secondhand books in good nick, so you don't have to spend too much if it doesn't work out. Maybe Roald Dahl? James and the Giant Peach or something like that? Quite a lot of silliness there. A children's poetry anthology?
On a different topic, I bought Mummy a DVD compliation of "slapstick" like Buster Keaton, to show on the home's telly as Mummy loves her jokes and enjoys "pratfall" comedy now, so that might also be an option.
I wouldn't worry too much about buying children's books - lots of people do these days, at all ages. I can see where you are coming form but I would be surprised if anyone had a problem.
 

Helly68

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Mar 12, 2018
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It depends on where you're mum is at.

I was going to suggest libraries - ask at the counter and they might be helpful, they get older men getting books out for grandchildren

I've noticed my son still has horrible science on his shelf so might try that and also horrible histories, I know my mum would have found these really funny once. They are a boy fart level of joke.

My mum always liked gardening so I was thinking a book about gardening for her.

You can preview books on Amazon - just have a look
Or even a gardening magazine with lots of pictures. I was surprised that Mummy likes recipe magazines, even though most of the text is too small for her to read. I think she likes the pictures of food....
 

Notts

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Oct 31, 2017
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Thank you this has been really helpful. My mum was a librarian and big reader but I have struggled to engage her in books and magazines recently. I will try some of these tips
 

Helly68

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Mar 12, 2018
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Glad I started the thread and glad it is of interest to others. I find Mummy varies a lot from day to day so you have to be flexible and try different things.
Poetry is often good as it is short and doesn't need much concentration.
 

Donkeyshere

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May 25, 2016
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I'm not sure my MIL has any comprehension now of being able to read - I bought her usual TV Choice and she gave it back to me in 5 minutes saying that she had read it - I mentioned that it was for the TV and whats on for this week - she looked at me with "the look" as if to say I'm not stupid and said what do I need that for - I can see whats on!
 

BryanG2001

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Mar 2, 2014
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Thanks for the suggestions. I got a couple of poetry books and the carers says she responds quite well to be read to, the first poem in one is the 'Owl and the Pussycat' . The bit she reacted to most was the geometric pattern in the front cover of one of the books. I looked online for books with patterns in them but they were mostly 'colour in' books which we have tried and failed with in the past. I know that her vision is reducing and she needs greater contrast so I have ordered a few second hand 'baby sees' books which have high contrast patterns in them. I will be interested in the reaction. In they way she handles the books you can see that she likes the idea of books, just have to find something that can grab her attention.
A children's poetry anthology
I struggled to find the right search on Amazon, kept getting story books.
I bought Mummy a DVD compliation of "slapstick" like Buster Keaton
Mr Bean sometimes works, they are often on ITV2 and higher.
 

GretalP

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May 17, 2017
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I too find my Mum enjoys me reading to her. As she has macular degeneration her vision is limited so struggles to read and whilst I am not sure how much she follows the story line she often appears relaxed and listening to me. She has phases where she becomes very agitated, repeating the same non sensical words over and over. If I persist with reading over her chanting then in the majority of times she does calm down. When she is on a good phase I have found pictoral books of the area where we live,where she used to live and places she used to visit have really grabbed her interest. We spent a lovely hour last week talking through the pictures and any memories it triggered. Considering she is in late stage dementia these brief 'good' periods are an immense uplift for me.