Hi there.I must join this conversation as i have just lost my dad only last week from Covid in December to speeding up his dementia. What i have learnt in 2 months is invaluable.I did that yesterday, and was assured that they were meeting his needs. They are looking at it as an achievement that they get him to eat all his food, and to be fair one day when I went he was crying out for something to eat. They say that the only way he would get better care is one to one at home. He is so frail, and his room is at the end of a long corridor, so he doesn't get carers passing, they only go when it is for a specific reason. He is totally dependent on them, and it must be so frightening for him constantly not knowing where he is, and not being able to move. When he was shouting where am I today, I told him that he was poorly, and that he was in a nursing home where he was safe and they were looking after him. He shouted 'You've put me in a bloody nursing home! I don't go in a nursing home'. If anyone he knew had to go in a home, he always said they've 'shoved' him in a home, and it was always looked upon as a wicked thing to do.
So sorry you are having this dreadful time.