1. Mik1929

    Mik1929 Registered User

    Oct 2, 2014
    19
    I am 86 and MW is 85 and has Alzheimer's for over seven years. I am her sole carer and it is becoming moe and more difficult to cope although she is on medication which has calmed her down from the years when she was abusive, both verbally and physically. For the last few years she has been calmer and quite confused but still able to understand most basic things. Her toileting has been difficult as she will not use pads and constantly wets her pants and trousers. However in he last few days she has deteriorated quite a bit to such an extent that she is unable to understand if it is day or night and has great difficulty negotiating the stairs whereas before she was slow but quit steady. I am having her urine tested in case it is a uti but I would like to hear from anyone who has had a similar experience of this as I am worried if this is a serious change. Sorry about the length of the post but things are getting difficult.
     
  2. Cat27

    Cat27 Volunteer Moderator

    Feb 27, 2015
    9,765
    Merseyside
    I'm sorry things are so difficult Mik. Do you have any help at all?
     
  3. Aisling

    Aisling Registered User

    Dec 5, 2015
    1,807
    Ireland
    Hi Mike,

    This is beyond difficult for you. This is probably a stupid question but have you any help? Can you ask for respite? My OH behaviour as constantly changing every day is different and difficult. Luckily he is getting a weeks respite next Monday.

    Aisling ( Ireland)
     
  4. Mik1929

    Mik1929 Registered User

    Oct 2, 2014
    19
    Help

    Thank you for replying to my rather long rant. I do have some carers in twice a day and I have a few hours off three times a week so things could be worse but my main worry is that MW could be slipping quite badly. However my situation is not so bad as some, it could have happened when we were younger. Thank you again for your concern.
    Mik1929.
     
  5. fizzie

    fizzie Registered User

    Jul 20, 2011
    2,740
    This is so hard for you, I'm so sorry
    Great idea to test for UTI
    When my Ma first refused pads we used to put them inside her pants when they were in the drawer so that when she pulled her pants on they were already in their. Your carers should also be skilled in helping with this but it did work having them pre-prepared!! You do get them from the incontinence service on the NHS don't you?
     
  6. Mik1929

    Mik1929 Registered User

    Oct 2, 2014
    19
    Thanks

    Thanks for your advice unfortunately most of the wetting occurs when MW goes to the loo as she does not sit down properly and wets everything. Today I have fitted a raised seat so we shall see what happens. Thanks again for your thoughts.
    Mik1929
     
  7. fizzie

    fizzie Registered User

    Jul 20, 2011
    2,740
    Thats a good idea, hope it works, keep posting xxx
     

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