Hello all
I haven't posted for a while as things with mum seem to have reached a bit of a hiatus (long may it continue), after our nightmare weekend in March.
For both of us, I think we are more accepting of the situation. Her that her memory is not what it was and me that reasoning with her is not an option! So, together we muddle along, me repeating things and not rising to bait she leaves for me and her muddling along and not being so argumentative.
We have actually had some laughter in the last few days. A rare event since her diagnosis. I know it won't last, this 'quiet time'. Last week she rang me and said she'd had another stroke and sounded very upset. Whilst in the past I'd have panicked and had that gut-wrenching feeling of world collapse, I listened to her and talked things through. It didn't make it right, but my blood pressure remained (more or less) the same and when I saw her she was OK. A bit cheesed off that there was nothing on telly, but otherwise fine.
I just wanted to share this with you. For newbies coming to the forum when it seems like you're going to have to climb the north face of the Eiger (you are ... but not all in one go - plus it's a bit warmer) and for the 'old hands' who have been on the path a lot longer than me and have a daily struggle. It's just that I've found a bit of peace, over the last few days anyway, and I hope you can find some too. Take time out.
I know it's a rock strewn path I tread, so I think what I'm trying to say, is I'm just jumping over some of the smaller stones at the moment. Thanks to you lot on here for sharing your experiences, I have been reading, even though I've not been participating.
No doubt soon, I'll be back again. Pulling out the last vestiges of hair I have on my head and yelling, 'help, help', but so it goes.
Please feel free to quote this post back to me when that time arrives!
I haven't posted for a while as things with mum seem to have reached a bit of a hiatus (long may it continue), after our nightmare weekend in March.
For both of us, I think we are more accepting of the situation. Her that her memory is not what it was and me that reasoning with her is not an option! So, together we muddle along, me repeating things and not rising to bait she leaves for me and her muddling along and not being so argumentative.
We have actually had some laughter in the last few days. A rare event since her diagnosis. I know it won't last, this 'quiet time'. Last week she rang me and said she'd had another stroke and sounded very upset. Whilst in the past I'd have panicked and had that gut-wrenching feeling of world collapse, I listened to her and talked things through. It didn't make it right, but my blood pressure remained (more or less) the same and when I saw her she was OK. A bit cheesed off that there was nothing on telly, but otherwise fine.
I just wanted to share this with you. For newbies coming to the forum when it seems like you're going to have to climb the north face of the Eiger (you are ... but not all in one go - plus it's a bit warmer) and for the 'old hands' who have been on the path a lot longer than me and have a daily struggle. It's just that I've found a bit of peace, over the last few days anyway, and I hope you can find some too. Take time out.
I know it's a rock strewn path I tread, so I think what I'm trying to say, is I'm just jumping over some of the smaller stones at the moment. Thanks to you lot on here for sharing your experiences, I have been reading, even though I've not been participating.
No doubt soon, I'll be back again. Pulling out the last vestiges of hair I have on my head and yelling, 'help, help', but so it goes.
Please feel free to quote this post back to me when that time arrives!
