Diane, I'm so sorry to hear about your mums diagnosis. You must be going through a whole load of feelings right now. Sadness for both mum and dad, but you must feel relief that at last you know what you're dealing with! I too, understand were you're coming from. My dad was so scared that decisions for my mums care would be taken out of his hands and she would have to go into a care home. Sadly, he died in February of a heart attack. Mum is stil at home with a full time carer and with the help of my sister we go over every day to give the carer her 3-4 hour break. I live an hour away from my parents, and because I don't work, I'm able to do it, although it isn't ideal. I'm in the process of sorting out an annexe for mum and her carer. Like you I want to keep mum out of a nursing home, if not to the end, then as long as possible. At times I feel overwhelmed by the responsibility of it all, but it's the least I can do for my beloved mum in her hour of need. I would highly recommend really pushing for their relocation to somewhere nearer to you sooner rather than later. I hope your dad can see a little clearer now you have a definite diagnosis and feels more able to let go and move closer. You sound like a loving and close family, send my best wishes to your dad from me. I can only imagine the pain he must be going through right now, but with each others support, I'm sure you'll get through it. As I said before, no matter how it may feel now, things inevitability work out in the end. And you always have Talking Point.........Jane x
