My OH, with vascular dementia and brain atrophy, has complex medical issues around Crohn's disease and his stoma. He had a colectomy in 2017.
The frontal lobe atrophy which gives him anasogosnia - meaning he does not recognise that he has anything whatsoever wrong with him including the dementia.
He finds it impossible to realise when something is wrong and I get a garbled version. This has happened so many times, that I am scared of the responsibility of it all.
He mentioned something last week that told me all was not well - and the stoma nurse is coming out tomorrow - then this afternoon, he has given me a completely different scenario which confounds me.
Not a nice subject, I know - but I really need to put this past you guys...
To those not in the know a stoma is formed when someone has had bowel surgery and it allows faeces to pass into a bag attached to the outside of the abdomen. This bag can be emptied during the day, and changed as required.
My OH is able to empty it ( at the mo) but not change it - carers do this.
Now he is telling me about passing blood - and other than examining what is coming out of him every time, I cannot assess how the situation is - then he throws a curved ball by telling me the blood is coming from his rear end as well.......what am I to think?
I know the answer is to wait until the stoma nurse comes tomorrow, and that is what I will do, but I feel the responsibility of it all on top of the dementia is very daunting. On Boxing Day night last, when all the docs were closed etc, he told me he was going to the toilet a lot - I took it at face value, then thought about it again, and asked him was he actually having a wee - and he said 'no' and could not remember when he last had!!!!! Curved ball again. That caused untold trouble between Boxing Day and New Year!!!
Sorry, long drawn out and not very pleasant rant - my apologies.
The frontal lobe atrophy which gives him anasogosnia - meaning he does not recognise that he has anything whatsoever wrong with him including the dementia.
He finds it impossible to realise when something is wrong and I get a garbled version. This has happened so many times, that I am scared of the responsibility of it all.
He mentioned something last week that told me all was not well - and the stoma nurse is coming out tomorrow - then this afternoon, he has given me a completely different scenario which confounds me.
Not a nice subject, I know - but I really need to put this past you guys...
To those not in the know a stoma is formed when someone has had bowel surgery and it allows faeces to pass into a bag attached to the outside of the abdomen. This bag can be emptied during the day, and changed as required.
My OH is able to empty it ( at the mo) but not change it - carers do this.
Now he is telling me about passing blood - and other than examining what is coming out of him every time, I cannot assess how the situation is - then he throws a curved ball by telling me the blood is coming from his rear end as well.......what am I to think?
I know the answer is to wait until the stoma nurse comes tomorrow, and that is what I will do, but I feel the responsibility of it all on top of the dementia is very daunting. On Boxing Day night last, when all the docs were closed etc, he told me he was going to the toilet a lot - I took it at face value, then thought about it again, and asked him was he actually having a wee - and he said 'no' and could not remember when he last had!!!!! Curved ball again. That caused untold trouble between Boxing Day and New Year!!!
Sorry, long drawn out and not very pleasant rant - my apologies.