Putting clothes on back to front

Louise83

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Feb 5, 2019
43
Another little issue my mum has that causes her a lot of distress/anger (sometimes towards me - accuses me of doing something to her clothes to make them back to front!)

This happens almost every day and night now, especially with her nightdress. Yesterday she put her trousers on the wrong way, we walked to the shops and neither of us noticed till we got home!

I've tried explaining, put the nightie face down on the bed, then put it over your head, but she keeps getting it wrong and gets angry etc.

Not worst problem to deal with I know, but wondering if anyone has any suggestions to help her?
 

marionq

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Apr 24, 2013
6,007
Scotland
Putting jumpers on as trousers, three pairs of socks on at once, pyjamas on top of clothes. All variations at one stage until I sat every morning beside John and handed each item and helped where necessary. I’m afraid that’s how it has to be.
 

Juliematch

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Jun 24, 2017
129
I agree with marionq.The only way is to help with dressing. Dad put shirts on with the collar around his waist, trousers and pants back to front ,if I left him on his own to dress. I made a game off it and I was lucky he accepted the help.
 

Louise83

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Feb 5, 2019
43
Just to add to this, mum also has an issue where she thinks I have interfered with her clothes, hidden them, torn them, put labels on, taken labels off etc. Dresses are too short/too long etc.
Got to the stage where getting her ready to go out is a nightmare.
Tonight we were supposed to be going out for a family meal but she turned that vicious on me (almost hit me too), then said she didn't want to go etc that we've just cancelled.

I know there isn't anything we can do about this, just needed to vent.
 

CardiffGirlInEssex

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Oct 6, 2018
137
Just to add to this, mum also has an issue where she thinks I have interfered with her clothes, hidden them, torn them, put labels on, taken labels off etc. Dresses are too short/too long etc.
Got to the stage where getting her ready to go out is a nightmare.
Tonight we were supposed to be going out for a family meal but she turned that vicious on me (almost hit me too), then said she didn't want to go etc that we've just cancelled.

I know there isn't anything we can do about this, just needed to vent.
I can sympathize with this, my mother no longer recognises any of her clothing as being hers and keeps trying to throw it away. My dad and I are accused of having got rid of all her clothes and replaced them with this 'rubbish'. Very difficult.
 

Buteo

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Mar 20, 2019
44
I now dress my wife after a long period of clothes on the wrong way, inside out, one pair of trousers over the other etc. etc.It seems to be one of those things. After she started taking Memantine, she would let me dress her, but before then I spent a lot of time trying to get her to put her shoes on the right feet and developing ruses to get her to take her clothes off so I could wash them.
 

scb

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Jun 27, 2019
16
Hi, my husband has been diagnosed with Alzheimer's about 6 months ago. I think he is in early stages, but dressing and undressing are becoming increasingly problematic for him. We go to the gym daily, and I pack clean clothes for him in his gym bag, so that he can put them on after his exercise and shower. Jackets or cardigans are problematic as he seems unable to handle the sleeves. Jackets are often half worn, half slung over a shoulder. It is distressing him, and as I can't go into the men's changing room with him, there seems little choice but to try to remedy the strange garb when he meets me at reception. We both love going to the gym and have lots of social interaction with other folks there, and he loves that but I worry that he will stop wanting to go as his inability to dress himself grows. He is well able to use the gym equipment and is safe in the environment as he has been weight training since a teenager and remembers well how to load weights, etc. I guess the only other option is to tell him to meet me unshowered and still in his gym gear, but as we go out for a coffee and a snack after the gym, he might be uncomfortable with that situation as well. Ideas gratefully accepted...…… thank you.
 

Spamar

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Oct 5, 2013
7,030
Suffolk
Isn’t there a family changing room you can both use? I asked at my local swimming pool/gym and they were more than happy to allow us to take advantage!
 

Sirena

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Feb 27, 2018
2,042
As Spamar has said, most gyms/leisure centres have a mixed-sex changing area, either a family changing room or a disabled changing room - is that a possibility?

Alternatively, are there types of clothing he's better with - e.g. give him a short sleeved t-shirt to put on, then you can help him with the top layer when you meet up.
 

spandit

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Feb 11, 2020
13
My father was confused today as to why he couldn't get his shoes on. I pointed out that taking his slippers off first might help a bit... yesterday he was trying to wear 2 pairs of glasses at once.
 

Graybiker

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Oct 3, 2017
167
County Durham
Not much advice, sorry, but it reminded me of a particular time when I told mam her trousers were on back to front. She argued about it, so I pointed out the label was at the front. She promptly ripped the label off and said “There, sorted!” :)