Hi Karen
Sadly honey us kids dont come with a handbook, and some mums just dont have the maternal bit, but for all that, who does she play up, you, why, cos your the daughter she loves, yes I know, no appreciation just take take take, but how does the saying go, "you always hurt the ones you love".
So please, biff that old guilt monster on the nose, he doesnt belong with you, you are one fantastic daughter, otherwise you would have gone over the hills and far away long before now.
Hubby is so right, when it gets too bad, just walk away, staying around just feeds mums bad mood.
You are strong, and you will cope.
Much love
Cate xxxx