@carolyn, your comments about "the shadow...not the substance" is kin to what my OH says. He wants to play golf. Not going to happen. A counselor suggested he put a putting strip in our hallway and try putting. Oh no, he exclaimed, if he couldn't play real golf, he wasn't going to just putt. Another example, now that he's in a home, is he wants to go to a Parkinson's kick-boxing class at a work out club. Yet, he won't go to exercise class at 9:30 every morning at his home. He says they just exercise their fingers. He wants to hit a boxing bag. Not going to happen. Even the doctor demonstrated to him how those finger exercising would be beneficial to him. So I told him this story. Say you want a Mercedes Benz for a car but you can only afford a Toyota (don't know how this translates. Mercedes are expensive, Toyota not so much.). You don't want a Toyota, only the Mercedes. So, do you do without a car!!!??? I lost my best friend and evening conversationalist in OH. It hurts. I now go to a book club once a month with strangers. I've been twice and a new friend emerged this week. It does help. And if you can escape OH for few hours, it really helps. I went to the first meeting
because he was home. The second one I forced myself to go to.
Your conversations on TP are so valuable to all of us. I can only imagine how things were between you and your husband. We all know your pain. Oh, how I wish I could help each and every one of us!
I cannot believe that y'all are watching The Soprano's! We did not watch it when it originally aired and just watched it this past year. It was so difficult to go to work the next day and want to share things like "can you believe he killed her?" when no one else was watching it!!!??? I was an extra in a movie that James Gandolfini was starring in. He came to the parking garage where the extras had gathered for make-up and dinner. He ATE dinner with the extras! He was a class of a guy. They are also making a prequel to it.
My OH TV habits have changed to a love of comedy (mostly silly) shows. The brain is a funny thing. So many changes happening.
This got so long because it's a lonely Sunday morning.
@carolyn, yes, be glad you need to go check on him (I had that feeling a lot...like a child). Now he's in a home.
Thank you for being here for those like me.