The memory clinic nurse is so kind and concerned but because she can’t do any more than she has, he is discharged back to the care of the GP. It was very revealing that when she asked him about his cruise, because she knew we were going, he couldn’t tell her anything about it, where we had been, when etc. He looked anxiously at me and said ‘you’ll have to ask my wife’, it was so sad. With a hint he was able to say Stockholm but nothing else except that he enjoyed it very much. She did a memory question and answer, asked him lots of questions and made notes for the doctor and then the three of us discussed his drinking and as usual he was full of good intentions, wouldn’t drink alcohol more than occasionally and be careful, knew he shouldn’t with the pills. She understood the situation well but it is insoluble, only a holding operation. This was midday and by the evening he was putting his shoes on to go to the pub. I am still trying to curb this with reasonable success largely because one of these days he will collapse and be back in hospital which I believe would precipitate further deterioration, I have read on TP that hospital admission can accelerate dementia and it certainly did his. I think we have gone down another notch now, and I believe it was triggered by the fact that I was not there when he got up from his rest, and he panics, needs a drink, drinks too much and is very irrational so that’s another restriction on me, no going out after lunch now. She suggested that I apply for attendance allowance which he is now entitled to, so I shall try. I have made an error of judgment too. I thought that it would be safe to have a bit of wine for me to enjoy with him in a controlled situation, silly me! He has taken to drinking the non-alcoholic wine out of the bottle secretly, and when I discovered this, I found a bottle of real wine that I had got for us half empty and wine stains on his trousers from drinking out of the bottle. It is quite unbelievable that this man could behave in this way, and I find it very distressing. Non- alcoholic for goodness sake, his brain is so tangled up. We have just walked back from the bus stop past the pub which he referred to as his pleasure palace where he was going this evening! I have got him to walk quite a bit today so hope I have worn him out. I am coming to terms with the fact that he is well enough to damage himself but not well enough to look after himself. The other task I have to do is get myself onto his own checking account, and I can do that without him by registering the LPA with the bank together with my ID. So it’s well worth getting that done ahead of time, which fortunately we had. This is rather a long post but I hope that it can help others who are struggling.