My Wife has had Vascular/mixed dementia for many years and is now unable do very much for herself. She does not seem to have one normal bowel movement, but every time she urinates, she sits there until she has a small bowel movement. Occasionally she forget to use paper and gets faeces on her fingers which she then wipes on the towel before washing ! Her underclothes then are also seriously contaminated to the extent that I have to hand wash them (and the towel) before putting in the washing machine. She is unable to remember anything for more than 10 seconds so it is pointless saying anything to her. Any suggestions?