Hi,
I'm new here!
My dad is nearly 76, and he has Vascular Dementia.
My mum's main problem is that she has not been given any practical advice on how to deal with his various difficulties.
At the moment she is at the end of her tether because he is largely refusing to eat any 'proper food'. He is insistant that he has throat cancer (he doesn't!) and spits out most of his meals, saying he can't swallow any lumps.
BUT...his main obsession at the moment is sweets, and he can happily scrunch his way through kitkats, crunchie bars, toffee, etc, etc!! So he can obviously manage these kinds of lumps!
My mum would love to hear any advice from other carers who have struggled with similar problems. At the moment he is even picking out the tiny flecks of fruit in yoghurt because he says he can't swallow them!
Also, we are all having difficulty with how to deal with his behaviour in general. I work with young adults with severe learning difficulties, but I don't know whether the strategies I would use at work are appropriate to use with someone who has dementia, if that makes sense. For example, yesterday he spat out a lot of food onto the table, ignoring the tissues he had been given. Now, at work, if one of my students did something like this I would firmly but kindly insist that they clear it up as best they could. But is it appropriate to do this with someone with dementia??
Sorry for such a long post, but we have so many questions about practical advice!
Bid
I'm new here!
My dad is nearly 76, and he has Vascular Dementia.
My mum's main problem is that she has not been given any practical advice on how to deal with his various difficulties.
At the moment she is at the end of her tether because he is largely refusing to eat any 'proper food'. He is insistant that he has throat cancer (he doesn't!) and spits out most of his meals, saying he can't swallow any lumps.
BUT...his main obsession at the moment is sweets, and he can happily scrunch his way through kitkats, crunchie bars, toffee, etc, etc!! So he can obviously manage these kinds of lumps!
My mum would love to hear any advice from other carers who have struggled with similar problems. At the moment he is even picking out the tiny flecks of fruit in yoghurt because he says he can't swallow them!
Also, we are all having difficulty with how to deal with his behaviour in general. I work with young adults with severe learning difficulties, but I don't know whether the strategies I would use at work are appropriate to use with someone who has dementia, if that makes sense. For example, yesterday he spat out a lot of food onto the table, ignoring the tissues he had been given. Now, at work, if one of my students did something like this I would firmly but kindly insist that they clear it up as best they could. But is it appropriate to do this with someone with dementia??
Sorry for such a long post, but we have so many questions about practical advice!
Bid