Hi. Dad finally diagnosed with VD. Cognitive probs, so ability to say a sentence greatly impaired.
Concern is control over mum. She can't/won't go anywhere without him. Has been offered 'sitting service' but refused as he doesn't want anyone in the house and isn't "mad". He has told her he doesn't want to be separated from her as he'll die if she goes somewhere without him.
He has history of violence. Hospital have asked mum if any abuse - she denies.
She has told hospital she is worried about him driving. DVLA informed and insurance - only caveat is he must not drive alone now. She is 'letting ' him drive hundreds of miles this weekend.
She is clearly scared of saying no to him on anything. As she is refusing help, they are not on anyone's radar and apparently dad says he will not let anyone in. Have explained the police may be called if social care cannot gain access and then they would force entry (with my full backing).
Mum will not talk to me honestly about it and says she can never talk as he's always there. I suggested she writes but I think it's more of a case she doesn't want to admit what's happening as she knows I will challenge. Had to cancel internet because he was using it inappropriately.
Any suggestions/advice/tips greatly appreciated. I have no idea how to handle this and/or keep her safe. Thank you
Concern is control over mum. She can't/won't go anywhere without him. Has been offered 'sitting service' but refused as he doesn't want anyone in the house and isn't "mad". He has told her he doesn't want to be separated from her as he'll die if she goes somewhere without him.
He has history of violence. Hospital have asked mum if any abuse - she denies.
She has told hospital she is worried about him driving. DVLA informed and insurance - only caveat is he must not drive alone now. She is 'letting ' him drive hundreds of miles this weekend.
She is clearly scared of saying no to him on anything. As she is refusing help, they are not on anyone's radar and apparently dad says he will not let anyone in. Have explained the police may be called if social care cannot gain access and then they would force entry (with my full backing).
Mum will not talk to me honestly about it and says she can never talk as he's always there. I suggested she writes but I think it's more of a case she doesn't want to admit what's happening as she knows I will challenge. Had to cancel internet because he was using it inappropriately.
Any suggestions/advice/tips greatly appreciated. I have no idea how to handle this and/or keep her safe. Thank you