My Mum probably has dementia. She is terrified of the possibility however and refuses to be assessed. People phone her up, make an appointment and the moment the call ends she forgets they are coming. So they turn up, she assumes they are from the church she attends, (who she is ultra suspicious of for some reason) and refuses to speak while they are there. So they ask her ex partner, my Dad to sit in with her (he is helping her at present. I live miles away, so does my sister, my Brother has his head buried in the sand. Her ex, who is also my Dad, is a massive control freak who thinks he will get all her money if he can get power of attorney so him helping suits us all at present...) When he sits in he wont let her even speak for herself. So I'm sitting in on a secret meeting between me, the social worker, the mental health nurse and Mum next week. Anyway.
She seems totally lucid, for the entire day, ten hours at a stretch, if you speak to her face to face. She gets stressed and confused by technology, e.g the phone or TV and seems to have this weird expectation that someone should be looking after her all the time, sometimes she can be a little paranoid and she is very forgetful. But she is right here with me in reality, for the whole day, when I visit her face to face. All that seems to be wrong is that she can't concentrate for long and starts thinking of something else. Could that be depression instead of dementia? My Dad bullies her and stresses her to the extreme. Could it be his presence causing anxiety and depression, causing her symptoms? I ask because she is scared to have any assessment and will not co-operate, so they will pretty much have to go on what her family says about her....
She seems totally lucid, for the entire day, ten hours at a stretch, if you speak to her face to face. She gets stressed and confused by technology, e.g the phone or TV and seems to have this weird expectation that someone should be looking after her all the time, sometimes she can be a little paranoid and she is very forgetful. But she is right here with me in reality, for the whole day, when I visit her face to face. All that seems to be wrong is that she can't concentrate for long and starts thinking of something else. Could that be depression instead of dementia? My Dad bullies her and stresses her to the extreme. Could it be his presence causing anxiety and depression, causing her symptoms? I ask because she is scared to have any assessment and will not co-operate, so they will pretty much have to go on what her family says about her....