Hi
My mum has been diagnosed with vascular dementia, she was living in Lancashire, but moved nearer to me into a private sheltered housing scheme, five months ago.
It is a purpose built ground floor apartment in a three storey building built for the elderly population in our locality. Mum has been unsettled by the move and still cannot remember that she has sold her bungalow and moved to be near to me, even though this was what she requested to do before we knew she had started with dementia. She keeps thinking that it is time she went back "home", although accepts that it is her memory, which is failing her.
That aside I am managing to care for her very well, with the support of my two children at weekends which is when I am at work.
Mum is very happy living near to us and is coping, in the apartment with our support. She was allowed to keep her little dog on the proviso that she exercised her off the premises so as not to cause fouling of the communal gardens. We expected there to be a problem with this immediately, but she is managing fairly well although she does not always follow the rules.
The reason I am making this posting is because ever since my mum moved into this establishment she has had a problem with the outer main door, she, for some reason does not always close it properly, ie lock it, she leaves it ajar, which is upsetting the resident "house manager" who works 9 - 5, and other residents who have commented to the management of the group.
I am being harrassed with letters from the management in relation to this problem. I think they are implying that my mother is not a suitable resident, as she leaves the door open thereby causing a breach to the security of the building, and that I should be looking to remove her from her apartment (they have not actually put this into words, but I feel this is what is being stated), and that it is only a matter of time.
Mum owns this apartment and paid a lot of money for it, and pays a service charge weekly. I advised the establishment from the beginning that my mother had problems with her memory, and even asked whether the house manager would be able to promt my mum to take her medications, because of her memory problems, this unfortunately is not possible as the house manager is not allowed to get involved in this way with the residents. ( I know I'm rambling)
I have suggested to the management that they fit a stronger closing mechanism, which would pull the door closed from an ajar position, but they seem reluctant to do this, and have stated I am avoiding the issue.
Does anyone know what my mums rights are in this situation as she is certainly no where near requiring 24 hours care in a residential home. She would be so upset if this was forced on her at this stage in her illness, as would I be. She manages fine on her own with input from her family. I can not believe that she is at risk of losing her home because of this door problem.
Hoping some one can help
Many thanks Rosemary
My mum has been diagnosed with vascular dementia, she was living in Lancashire, but moved nearer to me into a private sheltered housing scheme, five months ago.
It is a purpose built ground floor apartment in a three storey building built for the elderly population in our locality. Mum has been unsettled by the move and still cannot remember that she has sold her bungalow and moved to be near to me, even though this was what she requested to do before we knew she had started with dementia. She keeps thinking that it is time she went back "home", although accepts that it is her memory, which is failing her.
That aside I am managing to care for her very well, with the support of my two children at weekends which is when I am at work.
Mum is very happy living near to us and is coping, in the apartment with our support. She was allowed to keep her little dog on the proviso that she exercised her off the premises so as not to cause fouling of the communal gardens. We expected there to be a problem with this immediately, but she is managing fairly well although she does not always follow the rules.
The reason I am making this posting is because ever since my mum moved into this establishment she has had a problem with the outer main door, she, for some reason does not always close it properly, ie lock it, she leaves it ajar, which is upsetting the resident "house manager" who works 9 - 5, and other residents who have commented to the management of the group.
I am being harrassed with letters from the management in relation to this problem. I think they are implying that my mother is not a suitable resident, as she leaves the door open thereby causing a breach to the security of the building, and that I should be looking to remove her from her apartment (they have not actually put this into words, but I feel this is what is being stated), and that it is only a matter of time.
Mum owns this apartment and paid a lot of money for it, and pays a service charge weekly. I advised the establishment from the beginning that my mother had problems with her memory, and even asked whether the house manager would be able to promt my mum to take her medications, because of her memory problems, this unfortunately is not possible as the house manager is not allowed to get involved in this way with the residents. ( I know I'm rambling)
I have suggested to the management that they fit a stronger closing mechanism, which would pull the door closed from an ajar position, but they seem reluctant to do this, and have stated I am avoiding the issue.
Does anyone know what my mums rights are in this situation as she is certainly no where near requiring 24 hours care in a residential home. She would be so upset if this was forced on her at this stage in her illness, as would I be. She manages fine on her own with input from her family. I can not believe that she is at risk of losing her home because of this door problem.
Hoping some one can help
Many thanks Rosemary
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