I am at a loss what to do with the pressure put on me and my husband by his brother. They did not have a close relationships and since the brother was told of the Alzheimer's he initially was supportive. However, it did not work out and my husband would go out with him because he felt he had to. The relationship broke down entirely with my husband deciding not to have contact with him any more. His feelings towards his brother escalated - I believe intensified by his Alzheimer's - to such an extent he would get angry, anxious and expressing violent thoughts toward him. The brother refuses to speak with me, but has over the years tried to maintain contact with my husband. My husband made me promise him never to let his brother near him again. Now someone has informed the brother of the emergency care intake. This afternoon I had a call from the ward saying the brother is asking for information. I consented they can tell him that all is well and he is stable. However, I do not want the brother to visit him - now not possible anyway. I may consider allowing a visit under supervision once he has moved to a permanent care home. I have LPA - do I have the right to refuse visits or at least request these are under supervision? I do not want to break my promise as I witnessed how upset my husband would get.
There is also the matter of his son. No relationship there for the last 4 years. I'm happy for him to see his father, but only him, also under supervision and not for this to be a way in for the brother.
Am I overthinking all this?
There is also the matter of his son. No relationship there for the last 4 years. I'm happy for him to see his father, but only him, also under supervision and not for this to be a way in for the brother.
Am I overthinking all this?