Hi
I am new to this group and I really need advice before I go into a solicitors like a ill informed bull in an china shop.
Ok my grandmother of 97 years old has recently started to show signs of dementia. This was brought on by chronic Kidney disease. Basically the kidneys failing and the toxins poisoning her brain and causing delirium/dementia. The doctors saying that an underlying slight dementia could possibly have been present.
Ok my problem, if you like, i stay in Northern Ireland and have done for many years , my grandmother stays in Glasgow. I have visited regularly and keep in contact via the phone. Both my grandfather and my mother are dead. Now I have a 2nd cousin, my grandmothers great nephew, who started off visiting every Thursday for a couple of hours at night just to keep an eye on things. As time progressed these visit changed and became more regular mainly due to a fall my grandmother had where she injured her back, climbing up to dust plates of all things. I was not informed of this accident at the request of my grand mother. i duely found out and as you can imagine i was furious.
At this point I should mention I have an uncle my mothers brother who has been unofficially disowned by the family due to his criminal acts against my grandmother. I appologise at this point for going on and on its very complicated.
Now this cousin I mentioned, the last time I was over, was fit to tell me he had POA over my grandmother and that he had changed the will that had been put in place supposedly to ensure this uncle of mine ( my second cousins first cousin) got the bare minimum under Scottish law, which I am lead to believe automatically gives rights to surviving children especially males.
Now here is the crux of all this, at the start of this month my grandmother was admitted as an emergency to the hospital with what they thought was a suspected stroke,, it turned out it was the kidneys that shut down and cause a comatose state. This i am told is a like a self protection measure the body does. My grandmother then the next morning wakes up like nothing had happened physically but she was talking gibberish ,, that it was 1947 she was in the desert and she had food but it was pedigree chum ,,,and she did not recognise any of us.
Now ,,, her kidneys seem to be functioning now at 40% but her mind has gone. I asked my wife if she would be ok if I toke my grandmother in to live with us ,, something that my grandmother had continually refused to do as she didnt want to be a burden. My wife agreed to have my grandmother come to be with us. BUT my cousin says no he says she has to stay there and go into a medical facility. Now I dont know how long my grandmother has left but certainly dont want her spending her last days in the company of real as opposed to perceived strangers.
My question after all that is there any way I can challenge this POA ? On the grounds of I wasnt notified or that prior to all this I was next of kin and primary carer ( I spent months on end with my grandmother when my mother died and also when my grandfather died) My cousin has also made veiled threats regarding the will (which was changed to make him major beneficiary except for the house which I bought with my grandmother an automatically transfers over to me).
i was given order by my grandmother as to what was to happen who was to get what etc etc as I was the sole beneficiary , Now it seems even that has been updated or changed with a little persuasion.
Now some may see this as me trying just to get my grandmothers money or estate ,, thats not true as I have never taken (unlike the rest of my family) a penny piece, except in a birthday or Christmas card, from my gran. As I said I was the one that gave her the money to buy her home after nearly 70years renting. The rest never bothered it was always too much trouble ,,,now they all sniff death and swarming ready for the feeding frenzy.
I just want to carry out her wishes and see that what ever time she has left confused or other wise has a good quality of life, if that means letting the rest of the vermin fight over a few pound then so be it.
Please help if you can
Andy
I am new to this group and I really need advice before I go into a solicitors like a ill informed bull in an china shop.
Ok my grandmother of 97 years old has recently started to show signs of dementia. This was brought on by chronic Kidney disease. Basically the kidneys failing and the toxins poisoning her brain and causing delirium/dementia. The doctors saying that an underlying slight dementia could possibly have been present.
Ok my problem, if you like, i stay in Northern Ireland and have done for many years , my grandmother stays in Glasgow. I have visited regularly and keep in contact via the phone. Both my grandfather and my mother are dead. Now I have a 2nd cousin, my grandmothers great nephew, who started off visiting every Thursday for a couple of hours at night just to keep an eye on things. As time progressed these visit changed and became more regular mainly due to a fall my grandmother had where she injured her back, climbing up to dust plates of all things. I was not informed of this accident at the request of my grand mother. i duely found out and as you can imagine i was furious.
At this point I should mention I have an uncle my mothers brother who has been unofficially disowned by the family due to his criminal acts against my grandmother. I appologise at this point for going on and on its very complicated.
Now this cousin I mentioned, the last time I was over, was fit to tell me he had POA over my grandmother and that he had changed the will that had been put in place supposedly to ensure this uncle of mine ( my second cousins first cousin) got the bare minimum under Scottish law, which I am lead to believe automatically gives rights to surviving children especially males.
Now here is the crux of all this, at the start of this month my grandmother was admitted as an emergency to the hospital with what they thought was a suspected stroke,, it turned out it was the kidneys that shut down and cause a comatose state. This i am told is a like a self protection measure the body does. My grandmother then the next morning wakes up like nothing had happened physically but she was talking gibberish ,, that it was 1947 she was in the desert and she had food but it was pedigree chum ,,,and she did not recognise any of us.
Now ,,, her kidneys seem to be functioning now at 40% but her mind has gone. I asked my wife if she would be ok if I toke my grandmother in to live with us ,, something that my grandmother had continually refused to do as she didnt want to be a burden. My wife agreed to have my grandmother come to be with us. BUT my cousin says no he says she has to stay there and go into a medical facility. Now I dont know how long my grandmother has left but certainly dont want her spending her last days in the company of real as opposed to perceived strangers.
My question after all that is there any way I can challenge this POA ? On the grounds of I wasnt notified or that prior to all this I was next of kin and primary carer ( I spent months on end with my grandmother when my mother died and also when my grandfather died) My cousin has also made veiled threats regarding the will (which was changed to make him major beneficiary except for the house which I bought with my grandmother an automatically transfers over to me).
i was given order by my grandmother as to what was to happen who was to get what etc etc as I was the sole beneficiary , Now it seems even that has been updated or changed with a little persuasion.
Now some may see this as me trying just to get my grandmothers money or estate ,, thats not true as I have never taken (unlike the rest of my family) a penny piece, except in a birthday or Christmas card, from my gran. As I said I was the one that gave her the money to buy her home after nearly 70years renting. The rest never bothered it was always too much trouble ,,,now they all sniff death and swarming ready for the feeding frenzy.
I just want to carry out her wishes and see that what ever time she has left confused or other wise has a good quality of life, if that means letting the rest of the vermin fight over a few pound then so be it.
Please help if you can
Andy
