I have recently re done my POA.
My husband died nine months ago. Having been through the experience of caring for him and being a member of this forum I now see it from a very different perspective.
There are so many posts on here where people feel guilty because they have promised their loved ones that they will never put them in a care home.
I have sat down with my family and put them in the picture about what could happen if I were to get dementia.
I have told them and stated clearly in my POA that should I lose mental capacity and become a danger to myself that they should try to ignore any arguments from me and do the right thing.
As they all live 300 miles away from me, I believe that this is the right thing to do.
Im not saying that there wont be difficulties but at least they now know my wishes ( and yes, still being in my right mind I cant think of anything worse) but at least, hopefully it will assuage any guilt on their part should the worse happen.
My husband died nine months ago. Having been through the experience of caring for him and being a member of this forum I now see it from a very different perspective.
There are so many posts on here where people feel guilty because they have promised their loved ones that they will never put them in a care home.
I have sat down with my family and put them in the picture about what could happen if I were to get dementia.
I have told them and stated clearly in my POA that should I lose mental capacity and become a danger to myself that they should try to ignore any arguments from me and do the right thing.
As they all live 300 miles away from me, I believe that this is the right thing to do.
Im not saying that there wont be difficulties but at least they now know my wishes ( and yes, still being in my right mind I cant think of anything worse) but at least, hopefully it will assuage any guilt on their part should the worse happen.