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Power of Attorney advice please

FaithKerry

Registered User
Nov 23, 2015
4
My Father in Law is in the final stages of Alzheimer's and probably wont be with us for much longer, bless him.


When the inevitable happens, as far as we know, what money he has will be shared between his 3 sons. My Brother in Law has asked us if he can take £10,000 out of my Father in Laws bank account as part of his eventual inheritance in order to buy a new car now. We don't know how the law stands on this but the rest of us feel this is in bad taste to say the least, and that my Brother in Law should wait til the time comes. We have tried to find out what rights he has to do this so we can go back to him with hard facts. We are all upset that he should even ask to do this at this time when my Father in Law has such a short time left and can't speak for himself.


Any advice or opinions will be brilliant. Many thanks and i hope everyone is having a good day
 

2jays

Registered User
Jun 4, 2010
11,598
West Midlands
Short answer.
He has no rights.
He is in effect stealing from your father in law.
How does he know for sure he is actually getting an inheritance?

Father in law might live for months

or need HIS money to pay for specialist one to one care that could deplete the money reserves very quickly - therefore when he goes, may not even be be £10,000 left.

It's father in laws money until he goes. Any suggestion that someone should get "their money" early is the lowest of the low in my opinion.



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FaithKerry

Registered User
Nov 23, 2015
4
Thank you too. You have said many of the things we have been saying. I can't believe he even asked. I for one am disgusted with him, it's like he's seeing £ signs where the rest of us are seeing a frail broken man. We've now told him NO. X
 

Bill Owen

Registered User
Feb 17, 2014
182
67
BRIDGEND
Get lost

my father in law is in the final stages of alzheimer's and probably wont be with us for much longer, bless him.


When the inevitable happens, as far as we know, what money he has will be shared between his 3 sons. My brother in law has asked us if he can take £10,000 out of my father in laws bank account as part of his eventual inheritance in order to buy a new car now. We don't know how the law stands on this but the rest of us feel this is in bad taste to say the least, and that my brother in law should wait til the time comes. We have tried to find out what rights he has to do this so we can go back to him with hard facts. We are all upset that he should even ask to do this at this time when my father in law has such a short time left and can't speak for himself.


Advice or opinions will be brilliant. Many thanks and i hope everyone is having a good day
i would tell him to get lost .and to respct him .he should be a shemed .sorry im dislix.
 

Beate

Registered User
May 21, 2014
12,016
London
How horrible to treat a frail elderly gentleman with dementia like a cash machine. Has he no morals at all?
 

sue38

Registered User
Mar 6, 2007
10,854
52
Wigan, Lancs
Apart from the inappropriateness of your brother-in-law's request there are other issues to consider. The title of your post suggests that someone has Power of Atorney for your FIL. Whoever that is is under a duty only to use FIL's money only for FIL's benefit, which doesn't include buying BIL a car. Secondly if FIL were to need funding for his care from the Local Authority in the future this 'gift' might well be viewed as a deprivation of assets.