On Friday I attended the first Care Plan meeting regarding my Mum. I was told by the Care Manager that Mum would be present and actively involved, as well as myself and the solicitor. The Care Manager discussed the provisions that had been made for my Mum and then, quite out of the blue said : " Now we need to talk about death and dying". Mum, who was very quick on the uptake in this instance, replied with: " There are 2 types of dying, I presume you are referring to the 'colouring' variety!!" (Good one Mum!) The Care Manager told her that she was not and that she was talking about 'the sort that was to do with death'. She then went on to say that she had spoken previously to my Mum regarding this and had understood that Mum was not sure whether she wanted to be cremated or buried. My dear Mum, by this time was in floods of tears. Could someone please tell me if this is part of a care plan procedure? I cannot believe the mercenary way in which this was handled. If it has to be spoken about, surely there are 'guidelines' for dealing with it so that the client feels safe, dignified and respected. I feel it was abusive. Why on earth did the Care Manager, having spoken on a previous occasion to my Mother, not talk in private with myself, rather than making Mum re-visit it. Poor Mum spent the rest of the meeting apologising for crying all the time. If anyone has any thoughts or additional knowledge on this, please let me know. Thanks again for listening.