Is this the norm ? After dealing 24/7 with Mum's Picks and vascular dementia for 7 years through Dad's death from cancer, she went into respite care as I was becoming very ill. The nursing home couldn't cope with her the mental health and social services people at long last realised exactly what I had had to deal with. It took 2 months to find anywhere that would take her full time and this home is well not ideal to be generous. But why oh why after her being there almost 3 months do I feel like this ? My body has just given up on me my arthritis is 100% worse as is my CFS - the first few weeks i was OK just very worried about her, i am so depressed it's like she's died but dare i say it worse. Is this just me - I'm sure, well hope it's not. I don't feel guilty every day just very ill and so down.Where can i get help?