Hello,
I'm caring for my Gran and she has had an accident resulting in poo on her skin (legs, feet and torso as well as the obvious), clothing, the floor, the toilet and the sink. She was exhausted and had angina from the stress so I've put her into bed but that will have dirtied the bed because I should have showered her but couldn't.
I have severe obsessive compulsive disorder but have changed her into Tenna ladies, replaced her nightie and taken her slippers (heavily soiled) away and replaced with socks. I can't really cope with this!
Hello, Lisa. Brave you. These matters can be so very difficult. If you get your mother up and clean her up after she has slept, you and she will feel better. My mother had been having accidents like this regularly. I didn't know about getting gloves, and I didn't at the time think of using baby wipes to help me clean her up.
She still has issues arise once in awhile. We use Depends panties (disposable panties; some prefer Tena, but my mother prefers Depends), latex gloves (use on both hands - buy them in bulk), and wet wipes (we use Huggies, but they are available in the baby aisle of your store - so get what is available). If you cover yourself in a waterproof poncho, you won't even have to deal with whatever splashes off during the showering process.
To help prevent issues like this arising, however, I want to recommend you think of using Lactaid or some lactose inhibiting product. Your mother might no longer be able to process lactose. In my mother's case, *this* is the issue behind her fecal difficulties. Most products use lactose - even canned soup! - so giving your mother a Lactaid pill might help her deal with her incontinence issues. Milk products are really troublesome for older folks. If your mother has afternoon tea with milk or cream in it, along with any pastry that includes a buttered icing, this might be what is causing her difficulty. My suggestion is that you check and see what she is eating that is causing uncontrollable outbursts, as these might be related to lactose in her diet.
I think dealing with the fecal matters is my greatest challenge. I can deal with the loss of sleep and even the delusions. But dealing with the poop is really trying, for some reason.
I'm glad you found this site and hope the suggestions you have received will help you cope.