Hi
My mother recently died after having lived with my sister for 10 years. My mother had dementia and my sister was her carer and had POA. I live overseas and would fly over a couple of times a year for my sister to have a vacation.
Now that my mother has died and it is time to settle her estate I find that the money which was in my mothers account ten years ago is still exactly the same amount today. My sister had told me that she had invested it to get the best return but there has been no increase in the amount. Also my mother had been receiving her UK pension, a private pension and also a foreign pension, and again none of this has been deposited into her savings account.
I had no problem with my sister taking a wage to care for our mother, or charging our mother for room and board at her home, but I do feel disappointed now to find that my sister has been taking all of our mothers income for her own use. Prior to my mother moving in with her my sister had said that she (my sister) had very little money in the bank, but over the years she has been able to buy two new cars, a new car for her daughter, done renovation work on her home, and has just given her daughter 50,000 pounds as a deposit for a house. They are now looking at selling their current home and buying a house that is for sale at over 150,000 more than their current property. My sister and her husband are both retired!
So I just don't know what to do. The lawyer has the will and is dealing with the estate and I don't feel I can broach the subject with my sister as she is the only family I have outside of my husband and children. I don't really know what to do. But I do know that through her entire life my mother always made sure that we were all treated equally (my brother died 10 years ago) and that she would be disappointed to know that myself and her grandchildren would not benefit from her will in the same way as my sister and her one daughter.
I just don't know what to do, if there is anything I can do.
My mother recently died after having lived with my sister for 10 years. My mother had dementia and my sister was her carer and had POA. I live overseas and would fly over a couple of times a year for my sister to have a vacation.
Now that my mother has died and it is time to settle her estate I find that the money which was in my mothers account ten years ago is still exactly the same amount today. My sister had told me that she had invested it to get the best return but there has been no increase in the amount. Also my mother had been receiving her UK pension, a private pension and also a foreign pension, and again none of this has been deposited into her savings account.
I had no problem with my sister taking a wage to care for our mother, or charging our mother for room and board at her home, but I do feel disappointed now to find that my sister has been taking all of our mothers income for her own use. Prior to my mother moving in with her my sister had said that she (my sister) had very little money in the bank, but over the years she has been able to buy two new cars, a new car for her daughter, done renovation work on her home, and has just given her daughter 50,000 pounds as a deposit for a house. They are now looking at selling their current home and buying a house that is for sale at over 150,000 more than their current property. My sister and her husband are both retired!
So I just don't know what to do. The lawyer has the will and is dealing with the estate and I don't feel I can broach the subject with my sister as she is the only family I have outside of my husband and children. I don't really know what to do. But I do know that through her entire life my mother always made sure that we were all treated equally (my brother died 10 years ago) and that she would be disappointed to know that myself and her grandchildren would not benefit from her will in the same way as my sister and her one daughter.
I just don't know what to do, if there is anything I can do.