My OH was diagnosed with AD 2 years ago. We were left high and dry following this, with very little advice or guidance. I see that he is deteriorating and have gently tried to support him to prepare for his future, ie. writing a will, PoA for both finance and welfare, attendance allowance etc. He has always been resistant to any of these, so long as he keeps retaining his driving licence, albeit he does not drive anywhere. I feel it has come to the point that if he doesn't sign and register PoA soon, it will no longer be an option. I had PoA for finance set up ready, but he has shredded it. My difficulty is that we have joint accounts but he has the income. What will happen when he no longer has capacity but we need to make larger purchases that need financial agreement??? Am I getting unnecessarily wound up? I have tried to get a friend of his to support him with it, but he doesn't understand the process and has fed from OHs lack of mistrust of me, I feel and so is cautious. I feel this has not been helped as I am the only one offering advice, therefore suggests that I am 'money grabbing' just to maintain the status quo I do not work as my life between a husband and autistic son is time consuming enough, however, I feel I have no autonomy. Advice please.