My mum has been diagnosed with vascular dementia. I have had to put her into respite care, as I am also my husbands carer ( he has spinal stenosis and is awaiting an op) my mum is not settling in the residential home. She didn't want to go into respite and on Saturday afternoon when my daughter and I took her was horrendous . My mum has been living with us for the last 4 months but I have got to the stage of not being able to cope with much more from her. She wanted to put her house up for sale which we did (thinking we would build a granny flat on the side of ours for her, but she doesn't want that, she doesn't want to feel seperate from us) The sale of her house is going through and I can't bring myself to go and see her. I have no siblings, and don't want to keep mithering my daughter as she has her own family to see to .