hi, hope im posting this in the correct place, im looking for some advice really.
my dad was diagnosed with alzheimers about 2 and a half yrs ago, he moved into sheltered accomadation as he and my mum are seperated and my sister could no longer care for him. He was living near some older sisters of who i dont overly no or get on with. He was then sectioned after some violent out bursts and was putting into a mental hospital, this was about 6 months ago,i never really had a close relationship with my dad, andresented him for many things so haven't seen him much.
Whilst in the mental hospital he deteriated fast and wasput onto a medical ward where his care was not to a high standard and he caught MRSA. He is now clearing of that and has various other infections but has moved wards.
Before he was sectioned we had a bit of an arguement and i wrote him a letter telling him i resented him and that i hated him, (i regret this now) then he was sectioned and about a month ago i went to see him but he slept the whole time, and i cryed alot as when i entered i barely recognized my tall well built father who now lay as a boney frail man, i then went back to the hospital today, i was stared at blankly and had to leave after ten minutes as my emotions took over, he looked at lot worse than before.
I can't begin to describe it, it was literally skin covering bone, hecant talk he murmers, he doesnt eat or drink and you could tell from his face he was in pain.
I later found out, that he is no longer having treatment, as he is not in sane mind, my elder sister mad the decission that they would let nature take its course, and not give him any treatment other than minimum morthen to chill the pain, surely my sister and the hospital do not have the right to make this decission?
i've tried argueing but everyones answer is do u want him to live and suffer, thats not what i want, i want him die comfortably and not in pain, but apparently as i didnt live with him growing up and sixmonths ago said i hated him i dnt havethe right to make any decissions?
please help is there anything i can do so that hecan have better care taken of him?
I've considering going to a solicitor, but im only 15 and i have no one backing meso with lack of money and support, am i going to haveto sit bac and let it happen this way?
And also deep down will my dad no i truely i love him, as in my letter i said even though i hated him i still loved him. will he die knowing this deep down or will he die thinking i hate him? i probably cant go to the hospital and i didnt have chance to tell him today.
please help all advice will be truely appreciated.
my dad was diagnosed with alzheimers about 2 and a half yrs ago, he moved into sheltered accomadation as he and my mum are seperated and my sister could no longer care for him. He was living near some older sisters of who i dont overly no or get on with. He was then sectioned after some violent out bursts and was putting into a mental hospital, this was about 6 months ago,i never really had a close relationship with my dad, andresented him for many things so haven't seen him much.
Whilst in the mental hospital he deteriated fast and wasput onto a medical ward where his care was not to a high standard and he caught MRSA. He is now clearing of that and has various other infections but has moved wards.
Before he was sectioned we had a bit of an arguement and i wrote him a letter telling him i resented him and that i hated him, (i regret this now) then he was sectioned and about a month ago i went to see him but he slept the whole time, and i cryed alot as when i entered i barely recognized my tall well built father who now lay as a boney frail man, i then went back to the hospital today, i was stared at blankly and had to leave after ten minutes as my emotions took over, he looked at lot worse than before.
I can't begin to describe it, it was literally skin covering bone, hecant talk he murmers, he doesnt eat or drink and you could tell from his face he was in pain.
I later found out, that he is no longer having treatment, as he is not in sane mind, my elder sister mad the decission that they would let nature take its course, and not give him any treatment other than minimum morthen to chill the pain, surely my sister and the hospital do not have the right to make this decission?
i've tried argueing but everyones answer is do u want him to live and suffer, thats not what i want, i want him die comfortably and not in pain, but apparently as i didnt live with him growing up and sixmonths ago said i hated him i dnt havethe right to make any decissions?
please help is there anything i can do so that hecan have better care taken of him?
I've considering going to a solicitor, but im only 15 and i have no one backing meso with lack of money and support, am i going to haveto sit bac and let it happen this way?
And also deep down will my dad no i truely i love him, as in my letter i said even though i hated him i still loved him. will he die knowing this deep down or will he die thinking i hate him? i probably cant go to the hospital and i didnt have chance to tell him today.
please help all advice will be truely appreciated.