My mum is 76 and is mid stage vascular dementia. We recently moved her into living assisted accommodation - her own financed flat with communial restaurant, lounge etc. She has a 3 course lunch everyday and her laundry done. Prior to this she lived in a bungalow near the Coast but wasn't able to cook for herself and was losing weight. She also complained about being lonely and was too far from the shops. She was spending £500 on taxis as she was unable to drive anymore. We tried to get her to go to clubs to meet other people but wasn't interested. So in a nutshell she was crying because she was lonely, the house too big and too far from the shops.
Now she's crying because she hates the flat, she doesn't want to mix with the other people around her. We've suggested she cooks her own food in her flat rather than go to the restaurant as she doesn't like mixing with the other people there but she doesn't want that either. So she wants to move again. She says her Dr says there's nothin wrong eith her and that she is capable of living independently which blatantly isn't true. She has carers in twice a day to give her medication and take her to the Dr. She says she will move herself but isn't capable - she doesn't even know her address.
How do we handle this? I visit once sometimes twice a week and my brother once a fortnight as he's 2 hours away. She's threatening to walk out. We still have to sell the bungalow so her money is all tied up.
It's all so stressful - we can't go through yet another move...she's moved 3 times now in 7 years. We do all the hard work, viewing, solicitors, physical move Etc. and she's never happy.
Now she's crying because she hates the flat, she doesn't want to mix with the other people around her. We've suggested she cooks her own food in her flat rather than go to the restaurant as she doesn't like mixing with the other people there but she doesn't want that either. So she wants to move again. She says her Dr says there's nothin wrong eith her and that she is capable of living independently which blatantly isn't true. She has carers in twice a day to give her medication and take her to the Dr. She says she will move herself but isn't capable - she doesn't even know her address.
How do we handle this? I visit once sometimes twice a week and my brother once a fortnight as he's 2 hours away. She's threatening to walk out. We still have to sell the bungalow so her money is all tied up.
It's all so stressful - we can't go through yet another move...she's moved 3 times now in 7 years. We do all the hard work, viewing, solicitors, physical move Etc. and she's never happy.