Hi
I'm new to this site and new to the illness - Alzheimers. My father-in-law had been having some memory problems and I pushed for him to get it diagnosed as soon as possible as I was aware that the sooner these things were caught the better chance of treatment.
Unfortunately he has been diagnosed with the early stages of Alzheimers.
My father-in-law is 80 years old but my husband and I are only in our early 30's. We are expecting our first baby on 8th May and it just feels like everything is happening at once!!
My husband is convinced that his father is 'putting it on' to an extent. I have to admit that my father-in-law has always been an attention seeker but would hate to think that he is playing this up. Does anyone else feel like this? Is it normal to feel this way?
Although my father-in-law is 80, he's always been very fit and active. He lives in his own house with his dog, loves fishing, gardening, going into Leeds market for his shopping, visiting friends and driving. The specialist who diagnosed him has written to DVLA recommending that he keep his driving licence, which was a big thing for him. But he seems to have just given up. He won't get out of his chair, seems very depressed. I have tried all sorts of tactics to get him going - telling him he needs to keep active so that he can keep his car, home ad independence. Nothing seems to snap him out of it. He just can't be bothered.
My husband's sister has offered no support. Whilst she lives in the South of England and it's obviously a long way for her to travel, I did think that she may come up and spend a few days with him. She's 20 years older than my husband so her family have all grown up and left home and she's a millionaire so money isn't the problem. But the only comment she made was about my father-in-law's will, which obviously really upset my husband!!
We don't live close enough to my father-in-law to call in and check on him daily, although we do call and visit once or twice a week. We have also asked a neighbour just to keep an eye on him. We thought this would be enough for the early stages but it would seem he's incapable of managing to take his tablets (even though the chemist delivers them weekly in a packet marked with the days) and we've set him an alarm clock up to go off at the same time every evening and have stuck a sticker on saying 'take tablet now'. The clock even has the day and date on it! But the first week he had his tablets he took 3 in one day and then this week he's taken 2 in one day. I just don't know what else to do to help him. I even wrote on the front of the box of tablets to check date on his clock before taking!! Nothing seems to work as he just can't be bothered to help himself.
Any ideas?
Sorry this is such a long message. Just needed to let off steam and ask for help!
Thanks for listening!
K
I'm new to this site and new to the illness - Alzheimers. My father-in-law had been having some memory problems and I pushed for him to get it diagnosed as soon as possible as I was aware that the sooner these things were caught the better chance of treatment.
Unfortunately he has been diagnosed with the early stages of Alzheimers.
My father-in-law is 80 years old but my husband and I are only in our early 30's. We are expecting our first baby on 8th May and it just feels like everything is happening at once!!
My husband is convinced that his father is 'putting it on' to an extent. I have to admit that my father-in-law has always been an attention seeker but would hate to think that he is playing this up. Does anyone else feel like this? Is it normal to feel this way?
Although my father-in-law is 80, he's always been very fit and active. He lives in his own house with his dog, loves fishing, gardening, going into Leeds market for his shopping, visiting friends and driving. The specialist who diagnosed him has written to DVLA recommending that he keep his driving licence, which was a big thing for him. But he seems to have just given up. He won't get out of his chair, seems very depressed. I have tried all sorts of tactics to get him going - telling him he needs to keep active so that he can keep his car, home ad independence. Nothing seems to snap him out of it. He just can't be bothered.
My husband's sister has offered no support. Whilst she lives in the South of England and it's obviously a long way for her to travel, I did think that she may come up and spend a few days with him. She's 20 years older than my husband so her family have all grown up and left home and she's a millionaire so money isn't the problem. But the only comment she made was about my father-in-law's will, which obviously really upset my husband!!
We don't live close enough to my father-in-law to call in and check on him daily, although we do call and visit once or twice a week. We have also asked a neighbour just to keep an eye on him. We thought this would be enough for the early stages but it would seem he's incapable of managing to take his tablets (even though the chemist delivers them weekly in a packet marked with the days) and we've set him an alarm clock up to go off at the same time every evening and have stuck a sticker on saying 'take tablet now'. The clock even has the day and date on it! But the first week he had his tablets he took 3 in one day and then this week he's taken 2 in one day. I just don't know what else to do to help him. I even wrote on the front of the box of tablets to check date on his clock before taking!! Nothing seems to work as he just can't be bothered to help himself.
Any ideas?
Sorry this is such a long message. Just needed to let off steam and ask for help!
Thanks for listening!
K
