Im sorry I have been so long updating you on my dads situation but I have been very busy getting things sorted. Where to start well I have taken all your advise and complained to everyone from my ocal MP down and boy have things changed. The inspectorate are aware and have been very helpfull as have our local nhs trust all the action ended with a three hour meeting at the home my sister travelled 300 miles to be with me and she was marvelous it was so helpfull to attend a meeting with her and be able to have her backing and more importantly her expertise in handling people. My dads care plans have been re drawn, he has a new room and the home have agreed a monitoring policy on a daily basis so that I can see exactly what dad is being fed and his weight is being monitored in my presence twice a week. My dad has lost 5 stones in weight since his admission in October. More importantly the home owners have issued a verbal warning to one member of staff and a written warning to another. They have taken on board all our concerns and have asked us to assist them in ensuring that their standards are improved and maintained. MY dad is now being cared for properly I can sleep again and the guilt is lifted a little wish I had done in months ago though. I WILL NOT allow them to slip again. Thanks everyone for your support and advise it really helps because I know that you all know how I feel.