Good morning all, i haven't really posted on this forum since joining so I apologise for being a burden now but know that you guys are the best to turn to. After a serious of incidents and accidents both my grandparents moved into a residential home last month (we were fortunate in finding a lovely home that could take them both). Nana has dementia, grandad mobility problems and recurring mini strokes. Since getting into the home nan has insisted that she wants to go home, is going home tomorrow etc.... this is the recurring conversation with every visit and after reading similar problems here tend to deal with it by either distracting the conversation or simply agreeing (the path of least resistance on a tiring day!) Unfortunately grandad passed away yesterday lunch time. It was very sudden and a huge shock for us all. I went with my mum yesterday afternoon to tell nan. We made sure many times that she had understood and could recall what we had told her and she was able to which was our main concern that we would tell her and she wouldn't understand. The main emphasis for nan is now even stronger for getting out of the home. She began crying and shaking and saying that she couldnt stay there now, you have to get me home, I have to go home etc.... We just didnt know how to deal with this, the usual distraction of 'i like your slippers' 'thats a pretty jumper you have on today' didn't seem appropriate. We tried reasoning with her, and all the usual things... you are better here, they will look after you, you can't go home.... but we just werent getting anywhere. In the end we had to get the staff to come in to help us as we just didnt know what to do. So..... does anyone have any experience of a similar situation, any suggestions as to what i do now. Any input anyone can give would be so wonderful Thank you for reading my post.