My mum was diagnosed with AD last November. She lives with my dad who has his health issues having had triple heart bypass 18months ago. Mum is 89, dad 85. The main problem is my dad cannot cope with my mum and though she is very able bodied and once a wonderful cook, catering for dozens at a time, she can no longer cook and my dad does all the cooking. Mum still showers and dresses herself, all beit in her oldest clothes most of the time, but she cant clean the house, and I found out her 'ironing' pile actually contained dirty clothes. I have found them stashed everywhere. So she is not functioning well at all. Talk to her, and she can have normal conversation, but again short term she will repeat things 50 times. My dad has no patience with her now, he feels hopeless and so they fight. mum has walked out with a suitcase at least half a dozen times in the last two months. Twice I've been and picked her up and bought her to my house and my brother has done the same. trouble is, none of us live close to our parents and we want them to move nearer to me so I can relieve dads strain and care for my mum. I want to do it. My dad would move tomorrow, but mum will not. She shouts, she swears, she gets so upset when we say about moving, and then when she calms down she agrees its necessary. Its like a jeckle and hyde character. I cant cope anymore because its like beating my head against a brick wall, one day she agrees and we leave all happy, the next my dads on the phone saying she wont move and shes is shouting abuse at him, What to do, what to do? I fear for my dads health if we dont move them nearer, but is it right to move mum without her consent. I do feel she cant make the decision and I hope that if we can get them moved, and there are some wonderful warden controlled apartments just across the road from me where they would be safe and have me and my siblings there every day,we can change their lives for the better. My older brother says its not right to move mum if she doesnt want to go, but she has always been a creature of habit and has never wanted to move house. BUT, now its do awful and the stress of them battling it out and I mean literally, my dad has pushed mum over with frustration, I worry for them both. Please help what shall we do? Social services have said they cant help if its anything other than personal care and I want to look after my mum myself. I dont want others doing it. Its a desperate situation and its spiralling out of control. My tears are flowing as I type, my own job is becoming difficult because my head is full of this stuff.