Please don't throw me away, breaking my promise

Discussion in 'I have a partner with dementia' started by kindred, Apr 17, 2018.

  1. 2jays

    2jays Registered User

    Jun 4, 2010
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    Memories of childhood games in the playground....

    Hand claps with a partner singing a rhyme

    and for the life of me can’t remember the rhyme ☺️

    Dau friends child did one with me a few years ago... something like down down the lady goes.... and my mother told me if I kissed a soldier ... again can’t remember rest of words
     
  2. Jaded'n'faded

    Jaded'n'faded Registered User

    Jan 23, 2019
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    Gosh! I wonder if we are the same age or live in the same area - I did ALL of those at school! (I'm 59, from Manchester/Cheshire)

    Elastics was my favourite - I was really good at that. Less so at normal skipping with a girl holding the rope at each end. I could never get the timing right for running in. Another song we did for skipping was:

    Mother's in the kitchen
    Doing a bit of stitching
    In comes a burglar and pushes her OUT!


    ... at which point the next girl would run in and push the first one out.

    Simpler times indeed!
     
  3. kindred

    kindred Registered User

    Apr 8, 2018
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    I am so excited about your songs and stories. Am going to try the songs out when I next go to Keith's! Thank you with all heart. This is marvellous.
    Went for short visit today. When I left I kissed blue eyed and told him I would love him forever and he said
    So nice to see you.
    Oh blue eyed, I think I'll move in and live with you there.

    All my love guys, more anon, so love your replies. Gxx
     
  4. Toony Oony

    Toony Oony Registered User

    Jun 21, 2016
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    A couple of years older than you @Jaded'n'faded and I was an Essex girl ... but interesting that we did the same things.
    And yes, we did 'Mother's in the Kitchen ...'

    Your post made me think of another one that we skipped to with appropriate actions:
    'Teddy Bear, Teddy Bear touch the ground
    Teddy Bear, Teddy Bear turn right round
    Teddy Bear Teddy Bear climb up stairs
    Teddy Bear Teddy Bear say your prayers
    Teddy Bear Teddy Bear switch off the light
    Teddy Bear Teddy Bear say goodnight
    G-O-O-D-N-I-G-H-T

    x
     
  5. Jaded'n'faded

    Jaded'n'faded Registered User

    Jan 23, 2019
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    No, no NOOOOO! Sorry @kindred - your post gave me an immediate mental image of you skipping with a carer at each end of the rope! Probably not what your physio would recommend... :D

    And I imagined two ambulance drivers looking in despair at the heap of tangled bodies:
    'OK, I'll take the 2 broken hips and the head injury - you take the knees, wrists and elbows.'
    'Right - do we call the police to arrest the perpetrator or just get her sectioned...?'
    :D:eek:;)
     
  6. Garden2019

    Garden2019 New member

    Apr 29, 2019
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    My mother used the same expression - 'please don't throw me away' - with me last week. We have placed her in respite care for a few weeks and now need to determine what to do long term. It is heartening to hear that your partner has been benefiting from the help. All the best
     
  7. kindred

    kindred Registered User

    Apr 8, 2018
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    Oh this is heartbreaking, isn't it. All love, Keith certainly has flourished in his home. So good to hear from you. with love, Geraldinexxx
     
  8. kindred

    kindred Registered User

    Apr 8, 2018
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    So many thanks for your lovely stories and songs. I copied them into my songbook and went off today ... to be met with the news that Keith has just had another seizure. So all plans scrapped and I spent my time sitting with him, holding his hand. He is settled now. I said I did not want him taken to hospital but the doctor has been called. He has such loving, skilled help.
    I kept telling him, blue eyes, you have made such a fantastic job of living. He really has. No more words at the moment. He's strong, he bounced back (as it were) last time.
    with all my love, Geraldinexx
     
  9. Grahamstown

    Grahamstown Registered User

    Jan 12, 2018
    1,467
    East of England
    Dear Geraldine - Thinking of you and your blue eyed boy after such a nasty turn. You are a star for your stoicism in the face of this latest episode and hope for a good recovery again. Hugs xx
     
  10. Rosebush

    Rosebush Registered User

    Apr 2, 2018
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    So sorry Geraldine, hope Keith is better soon, take care of yourself, love Lxx
     
  11. anxious annie

    anxious annie Registered User

    Jan 2, 2019
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    Sorry to hear about Keiths seizure, hoping it is only a temporary set back xx
     
  12. Jaded'n'faded

    Jaded'n'faded Registered User

    Jan 23, 2019
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    So sorry to hear this, Geraldine.

    If anyone can help him bounce back, it's you.
     
  13. Toony Oony

    Toony Oony Registered User

    Jun 21, 2016
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    Much love to you both.

    XX
     
  14. AliceA

    AliceA Registered User

    May 27, 2016
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    So sorry to hear this, thinking and sending prayer to you. Love Alice x
     
  15. Sad Staffs

    Sad Staffs Registered User

    Jun 26, 2018
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    Dearest Geraldine. My thoughts and love are with you and with Keith. I’m thinking about you both. You are such a wonderful inspiring partnership.
    Take care of yourself...
    With my love, B xx
     
  16. kindred

    kindred Registered User

    Apr 8, 2018
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    Thank you all with all my heart for your wonderful, much needed messages of encouragement. I am so so grateful. And it is the strangest story I have to tell today.
    I go in in the middle of a deep and intense seminar about chewing gum and its origins. So I spark up a song from Lonnie Donegan, does your chewing gum lose its flavour and lots of the residents knew it and joined in.
    A little while later we had a seminar about turtles and then Keith was wheeled in.
    He was laughing and joking with the carers who told me he was a very smiley boy. I had to hold back my tears because I expected the opposite, the seizure being quite a severe one. I gave him his cup of tea and cream biscuits and said to him I love you and much to my shock, he replied, I love you too. Clearly enough for the nurses to hear and they were pretty shocked at this lucidity too.
    I said to him you are my lovely blue eyed boy and he replied that's very nice of you ...
    In fact, he had a lucidity that has been absent for ages. spent much of the morning laughing together, goodness knows what about, but was so good. The home was having an inspection today by lay inspectors and I was able to have a long discussion with one about why this home seems to work so very well.
    I am able to wear my mad shocking pink shoes there again now, they are sling backs with big beads on them. Residents love them and so do I.
    Thank you all for seeing me through this frightening time. I am so so grateful. with love and best, Kindred, Geraldinexxxxx
     
  17. AliceA

    AliceA Registered User

    May 27, 2016
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    Good news, Geraldine, have you tried clicking your pink heels? :) They could be magic. X
     
  18. Sad Staffs

    Sad Staffs Registered User

    Jun 26, 2018
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    That’s more like it Geraldine... you have warmed the cockles of my wilting heart.
    I hope you will go to sleep tonight with a gorgeous smile on your face.
    With love, B xx
     
  19. Toony Oony

    Toony Oony Registered User

    Jun 21, 2016
    495
    Keith - you're a star! Geraldine - you're a legend!
    Today's post has made my day.

    XX
     
  20. kindred

    kindred Registered User

    Apr 8, 2018
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    Thank you so very much for all your wonderful encouraging and loving messages! So much appreciated and held in my heart.
    Well, as Keith was wheeled in today, he shouts at me I KNEW YOU WERE COMING! This is new. Everyone smiles and the nurse in charge says how bouncy he has been. Anyway once in his chair and having had a cup of tea and three custard creams, he leans towards me and confides:
    Homer was a cretin ...
    (Keith did classics at Uni).
    But this classical discussion was interrupted by one of the male residents in the other lounge shouting HELP!! Those of us who could race in were met by him saying, THERE ARE WOMEN PLAYING FOOTBALL (there was a programme of women's football on tv). Small cheer from the female residents.
    Later on, the nurse sat and played the lark rising with one of the female residents who used to love birdwatching and the wondrous, calmed look on her face ... it was magical. Being a birdwatcher, I explained how skylarks drop to what we presume are their nests and then scuttle along the grass to where the nests really are. And how in spring, the nests are often in buttercups and the buttercup pollen turns the larks golden. I dramatised this as far as my hip would allow.
    It was a great time.
    The staff take such a delight in Keith's newfound energy ...As do I.
    When I left, I said to blue eyes, you OK darling?
    and he replied, can you elucidate on that ...

    Thanks for being with me folks, thank you. Love and best, Geraldinexxx
     

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