I thought I would share something I was told today by a colleague at a charity I have recently joined that is supposed to support carers.
In a discussion about how difficult it is for carers to find help or information she looked me straight in the eye and told me that many carers who have to leave work to care for their loved ones are really just using it as an excuse to not work. After being dumbfounded for a few minutes I told her as she had so little understanding of how being on call 24/7 is more than challenging than any job with no recognition or help maybe she should find somewhere else to work.
I, sadly am no longer a carer as I lost my mum a year ago but when I was I constantly came across comments like how mad I was giving up my life for mum or why don't you just walk away and I am sure you have all come across many other unhelpful comments but I never expected to hear this sort of thing from someone who not only works for this charity but has also a degree in social work and, god help us, has worked as a carer in a care home.
She didn't seem to have an answer of what you are supposed to do if your loved one has dementia and needs not only help to cope with every day but also protected from uncaring, small minded people like herself.
In a discussion about how difficult it is for carers to find help or information she looked me straight in the eye and told me that many carers who have to leave work to care for their loved ones are really just using it as an excuse to not work. After being dumbfounded for a few minutes I told her as she had so little understanding of how being on call 24/7 is more than challenging than any job with no recognition or help maybe she should find somewhere else to work.
I, sadly am no longer a carer as I lost my mum a year ago but when I was I constantly came across comments like how mad I was giving up my life for mum or why don't you just walk away and I am sure you have all come across many other unhelpful comments but I never expected to hear this sort of thing from someone who not only works for this charity but has also a degree in social work and, god help us, has worked as a carer in a care home.
She didn't seem to have an answer of what you are supposed to do if your loved one has dementia and needs not only help to cope with every day but also protected from uncaring, small minded people like herself.