I have posted twice before and Im sorry to trouble you all but like so many people become I am desperate to help my mother and if i can start by telling you my story ..........
My mother who is 82 is a carer to my father who is 86. Dad has Alzheimers disease and he also has an aorta Aneurism. He is prescribed patches at the highest dosage to contorl the pain of the aneurism, no medication for the alzheimers. My parents live in a one bedroom flat and the caring is really taking its toll on my mother who has her own health issues. She was put in touch with the local alzheimers soceity who offered her to attend with dad to a day centre for lunch they went along together and then the next time the lady from the AS came to take dad on his own. He point blankly refused to go, so mum's release was taken from her. They have now said there is little else they can do for her. He doesn have a consultant / psyciartrist and their GP in my opinion is useless. Dad is very bad and is doing all the wandering, waking at night all the usual traits of one with this awful disease. Mum is not coping at all and i really need to know who i can approach to get her some respite. Her GP really isnt doing very much to assist and has put her in touch with a carers aid to talk to .............mum needs more than talking to she needs a couple of days to recharge her batteries.
With regard to daughters / sons we are 4 children 2 of whom live in spain and myslef and my elder sister live about 60 miles away so we cannot be there. I am a single mum to 2 and work full time, neither of us drive. My parents do come to see me as often as they like, taking a cab which is crazy in costs. But even this is becoming too much for them both. Mum cries on the phone most days as she cannot cope and I really just want to be able to help but dont know who to turn to. Can her GP sort out respite ? When she spoke to her GP she more or less said she has to get on with it. Even when my sister spoke to social services they more or less said its up to family to deal and offered no solution. But i read on here about carers having respite and want to know how this is arrnaged. I am taking a day off work tomorrow to try and speak to various people but am at a loss as to where I should start.
Please can anyone tell me what I can do and who will speak to me about this. I assume her GP wont discuss matters with me.
My parents live in a council house have little or no savings and are now receiivng attendance allowance. I just want to be able to give mum a break.
Thanks so much for any assistance / advice & sorry to ramble on.
Dee
My mother who is 82 is a carer to my father who is 86. Dad has Alzheimers disease and he also has an aorta Aneurism. He is prescribed patches at the highest dosage to contorl the pain of the aneurism, no medication for the alzheimers. My parents live in a one bedroom flat and the caring is really taking its toll on my mother who has her own health issues. She was put in touch with the local alzheimers soceity who offered her to attend with dad to a day centre for lunch they went along together and then the next time the lady from the AS came to take dad on his own. He point blankly refused to go, so mum's release was taken from her. They have now said there is little else they can do for her. He doesn have a consultant / psyciartrist and their GP in my opinion is useless. Dad is very bad and is doing all the wandering, waking at night all the usual traits of one with this awful disease. Mum is not coping at all and i really need to know who i can approach to get her some respite. Her GP really isnt doing very much to assist and has put her in touch with a carers aid to talk to .............mum needs more than talking to she needs a couple of days to recharge her batteries.
With regard to daughters / sons we are 4 children 2 of whom live in spain and myslef and my elder sister live about 60 miles away so we cannot be there. I am a single mum to 2 and work full time, neither of us drive. My parents do come to see me as often as they like, taking a cab which is crazy in costs. But even this is becoming too much for them both. Mum cries on the phone most days as she cannot cope and I really just want to be able to help but dont know who to turn to. Can her GP sort out respite ? When she spoke to her GP she more or less said she has to get on with it. Even when my sister spoke to social services they more or less said its up to family to deal and offered no solution. But i read on here about carers having respite and want to know how this is arrnaged. I am taking a day off work tomorrow to try and speak to various people but am at a loss as to where I should start.
Please can anyone tell me what I can do and who will speak to me about this. I assume her GP wont discuss matters with me.
My parents live in a council house have little or no savings and are now receiivng attendance allowance. I just want to be able to give mum a break.
Thanks so much for any assistance / advice & sorry to ramble on.
Dee
) She visited about 4 times stayed for about an hour and that is it, she has said she will no longer be coming !? Really not sure what all that was about I think she came to get to know dad a bot so he would go to the day centre with her, when she tried this he refused to go anywhere without mum. Mum didnt push it as it was only for about an hour in the centre anyhow. I will speak with SS tomorrow, do i need to call SS in her area ? Thanks so much for your replies. Dee
