1. jenniferpa

    jenniferpa Volunteer Moderator

    Jun 27, 2006
    39,442
    I'm putting this here, because, it's relevant to my intial thoughts on this subject. With futher deterioration it looks as if this is going to happen even sooner than I thought. Sadly that almost certainly means this will be a funeral with one person at it - me. I haven't really decided what to do, but I'm not entirely unsure that this is a bad thing - allows me to grieve in private.

    Jennifer
     
  2. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
    70,143
    Kent
    Sending love, Jennifer. xx
     
  3. Skye

    Skye Registered User

    Aug 29, 2006
    17,000
    SW Scotland
    Jennifer, thinking of you with love. Let me know if there is anything I can do.

    Love,
     
  4. DeborahBlythe

    DeborahBlythe Registered User

    Dec 1, 2006
    9,222
    Jennifer, please feel free to get in touch if there is anything I can do. Deborah
     
  5. plastic scouser

    plastic scouser Registered User

    Jennifer, so sorry to hear the news - but you know, in one way perhaps this private funeral would be for the better.

    When Dad died at the end of January we decided to hold the burial service at the cemetery chapel and have Dad buried with the minimum of fuss. We then went to Mum & Dad's church (he was a committed Christian) and held a service to celebrate Dad and his life - and that's what it became, a lovely celebration where people smiled and laughed at their and our memories of Dad.

    I did a short piece on Dad - focussing on some of the areas that people didn't know about his life - and some personal memories - yes it was a struggle to get through but the smiles on peoples faces made it worthwhile. We had refreshments at the church afterwards and again, it only emphasised to me how much this was a celebration. People were there to remember the good things about Dad and not to focus on the fact that he was, to put it bluntly, gone.

    It will be hard - nobody can say how it will affect you as fortunately each of us is uniquely different, but if you want to honour your Mum's memory then why not celebrate her life with friends and family and make it something that your Mum would have enjoyed!
     

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