Hi, I haven't been on here for a while but I wanted to explain what is happening and ask for honest opinions.
So in summary, my mother died 5 years ago from alzheimers when she was 60 and I was in my 20s. Her decline was pretty awful and I found it very traumatic and isolating. I feel I am in a much better place now though.
My dad met someone new and they are getting married soon. He sold the house my parents shared and has kept nothing from that house. He lives mainly in his partners home. He still has a weekend home, which I visit, but everything has been replaced in this home in the 5 years since my mum died.
He refuses to have any photos of my mum in his weekend house (and actually has no photos at all) as he finds it too upsetting and his new partner refuses to live in a house with photos of his former life and so refuses to have any photos of my mum in the house.
I have my own flat, where I have photos of my mother and items of furniture that I took from the family home.
Is my dads and his partners refusal to have a photo of my mum something worth getting angry about? I feel like she is being wiped from existence, but then if his new partner doesn't want to live in a house with photos of an ex partner, why should she? Or is it odd that my nieces and nephew go to their grandads house and see no trace of the grandmother they never got to meet?
I'd be interested in your opinions whether you think I am being ridiculous or not! I think I need some perspective.
So in summary, my mother died 5 years ago from alzheimers when she was 60 and I was in my 20s. Her decline was pretty awful and I found it very traumatic and isolating. I feel I am in a much better place now though.
My dad met someone new and they are getting married soon. He sold the house my parents shared and has kept nothing from that house. He lives mainly in his partners home. He still has a weekend home, which I visit, but everything has been replaced in this home in the 5 years since my mum died.
He refuses to have any photos of my mum in his weekend house (and actually has no photos at all) as he finds it too upsetting and his new partner refuses to live in a house with photos of his former life and so refuses to have any photos of my mum in the house.
I have my own flat, where I have photos of my mother and items of furniture that I took from the family home.
Is my dads and his partners refusal to have a photo of my mum something worth getting angry about? I feel like she is being wiped from existence, but then if his new partner doesn't want to live in a house with photos of an ex partner, why should she? Or is it odd that my nieces and nephew go to their grandads house and see no trace of the grandmother they never got to meet?
I'd be interested in your opinions whether you think I am being ridiculous or not! I think I need some perspective.