1. doll

    doll Registered User

    Jul 6, 2006
    2
    Hi, my Grandfather has just been diagnosed with Alzheimers and Vascular dementia, fairly advanced. Due to other commitiments I have not seen much of him recently, so have a lot of news I would like to share with him, mainly my new job/career. I would really like him to understand what I do, and to know that i am thinking of him, so I had an idea. I thought of making a book of photos showing my journey to work, my workplace and colleagues, and what i do there. In this way he could keep it with him at home and look at it whenever he wanted to , and know what I was doing then, and also know that I had made it for him to show that I am thinking of him even though I do not see him often. Does anyone have any feedback on this idea? have you found it useful, or done something similar? I would really like any advice you can offer. Thank for reading this.
     
  2. Canadian Joanne

    Canadian Joanne Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 8, 2005
    16,152
    Toronto, Canada
    If your grandfather's dementia is fairly advanced, the photos may not trigger anything for him. It might be better for you to make up a photo album of old pictures of you - you can always include some new ones. So when you visit, you can explain the new ones re: your job etc.

    My mother has a couple of photo albums but as her disease is quite advanced, she doesn't bother with them anymore. I don't even know if she can recognize herself.
     
  3. Margarita

    Margarita Registered User

    Feb 17, 2006
    10,824
    london
    My mother is still at the stage that she can recognize herself and family members in photo, hopefully you granddad not at an advance stage , does sound like a good idea . Just do it see how your granddad gets on
     
  4. Libby

    Libby Registered User

    May 20, 2006
    625
    North East
    Hi Doll

    I did this when my Mum went into a home - I started it off with her childhood (only a couple of photos available, then her & dad when they were young, progressing through the birth of all 5 of us. Then I did sections of the five of us and our own families so that she had photos of the grandchildren when they were babies, going through till they were teenagers. I put photos of her friends, bowling teams, and holidays. It took me a while to do.

    She looked at it a couple of times and then it was stuck in her drawer!!

    I sometimes drag it out and it is something to talk about, but at the end she just says 'Why don't you take that home with you?'

    But as I say, it is something to talk about although sadly she doesn't recognize anyone in it.

    Libs
     
  5. Brucie

    Brucie Registered User

    Jan 31, 2004
    12,413
    near London
    ... if you can't remember who the pictures are images of, then they simply serve as a reminder of your failing memory. No wonder they are ignored.

    I know that sounds bad because we are all trying our best for them, and we want to do so much more.

    When my wife lost the ability to write her own name, quite early on in her dementia, I tried to sit with her to practice and practice and practice some more in the hope that she could re-learn it. Of course that didn't work, neither does the exhortation to "use it or lose it", once dementia has started.

    But do put the albums together anyway because you will value them yourself in times to come, and this provides you with a reason to make the album from her point of view.

    I produced hordes of posters for my wife's bedroom wall, but I was the only one of the two of us to know what they were, though the staff at the home, and relatives of other residents have appreciated them.
     
  6. doll

    doll Registered User

    Jul 6, 2006
    2
    Thanks for the replies. At the moment he can remember who we are etc., but forgets things we have said very quickly, within a few mins. That is why I thought a book would be good. I will do it anyway, if only to make myself feel useful, and I have asked my brother to do some for his new job too. The idea is to put it in a folder that we can add chapters to as and when they become relevant, so we can always add older pictures later when the new ones don't mean anything to him any more.
     
  7. Canadian Joanne

    Canadian Joanne Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 8, 2005
    16,152
    Toronto, Canada
    If it makes you feel better and useful, excellent. And as your grandfather is not so advanced, then it will probably be a very good thing.

    One thing I did early on was have a guestbook & ask all the visitors to sign. I would write in what we did also (watch the rain, go for a walk). There aren't many pages filled in because she soon lost interest but I'm glad we have the book.
     
  8. Maggie

    Maggie Registered User

    Oct 11, 2003
    72
    Female
    Gibraltar/England london Now
    I love taking photo ,also every time when you can and you do visit your granddad take a photo together, photo capture a moment in time that can be so easily forgotten by all of us. Also if sadness, sorrow hit us, like me to take my mind of things I tidy up and end up finding the box full of old photo that I had forgotten about , bring back memories of joy full happy time I had in the past reminding me, to get that camera out again to capture more happy moments that are going to happen in the future .
     
  9. Lila13

    Lila13 Registered User

    Feb 24, 2006
    1,342
    I am spending a lot of time looking at my photos of my mother taken in her last months, and especially "movies" which I took partly as evidence (like the logbook) for those who didn't believe us (not that they were interested, of course).

    The only photo she wanted in the room where she slept was one of her own parents, taken about 50 years ago.

    She also liked looking at pictures of animals on the farm where she'd lived as a child.

    She was delighted to receive a photo some friends of hers sent of their daughter and grandchild, but didn't remember their names and thought the girl in the photo was someone she'd known long before. Never mind, she still enjoyed the picture.

    You never know, do you, what will be enjoyed and what will be rejected. Just ... go on trying.

    Lila
     
  10. magkeewest

    magkeewest Registered User

    sunday 09.30 8 july 2006

     
  11. nikita

    nikita Registered User

    Jul 31, 2004
    92
    talking photo albums

    one of the children i work with has a talking photo album you record the message yourself maybe this would be helpful not sure where it was bough though
     

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