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GROCKLE

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My sister has Alzheimer's, lives alone with support carers coming in 6x / week.
She still knows my name on the phone and I can't visit because of the pandemic and live in Switzerland.
I wanted to ask if there are any do's and definite dont's for the Photobook contents.
I'm planning to do one for my half sister 82, born 1939, her father was killed in the war she never really saw or knew him, but there are photos. I want to keep the picture numbers down and include names and where possible dates / age. A few years ago, when she visited me here in Switzerland, she wanted to go to Anzio Beachhead in Italy where her father fell. But the circumstances were not such that we could carry out this wish.
My mother remarried when my sister was about 7 and had me, I'm 10 years younger.
Do I show family photos from the past with my mother and her father? I'm sure she recognizes them at the moment. Do I show family photos of my mother, me and her with my father?
I have lots of pictures from events such as 2 weeks on the Cornish coastal footpath we did together when we were younger which would for sure trigger the memory, and many from more recent years with my family and children and grandchildren.
What about pictures of much loved family dog's?
Where does the sadness of a person or animal who has passed away caused increased hurt?
Should I include church friends who are currently helping to look after her?
How far to go?
As I say, any Do's and any Dont's?

Many thanks for your advice.
 
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Bunpoots

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Welcome to Dementia Talking Point @GROCKLE

I’m not sure there’s a right or a wrong way to do photo books. Is there anyway you could show some photos to your sister before you decide, perhaps using WhatsApp or similar, so that someone can decide what would be best?

I would also advise taking copies of any photos you want to keep as PWD often dispose of things they no longer recognise or remember.
 

GROCKLE

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Welcome to Dementia Talking Point @GROCKLE

I’m not sure there’s a right or a wrong way to do photo books. Is there anyway you could show some photos to your sister before you decide, perhaps using WhatsApp or similar, so that someone can decide what would be best?

I would also advise taking copies of any photos you want to keep as PWD often dispose of things they no longer recognise or remember.
Since I live in Switzerland, and she lives in Devon, I can't really show her. Maybe WhatsApp with someone who goes there occasionally, but I am not sure that would help, I think the WhatsApp pictures are too small, I notice that even when we send her TouchNote Postcards regularly with names and dates on them.
The essence of the question is, when memory fades, how does it cope with those memory triggers, I have seen two (Swiss) grandparents go with dementia, I saw all stages even down to them not recognizing one another even when sharing the same care home room. I don't remember seeing sadness maybe puzzlement, trying to place the person.
I fortunately retrieved all the photos when I was over there 2 years ago - lucky, thanks for the tip, I hadn't thought of that, it could still happen with other things, but I think I have all other items well under control.

I believe a photo, with a name(s) maybe an event/location, maybe her age at the time next to the name could be useful, if not for the PWD but the carer, friend. i.e.

Grockle (73) at Dartmouth Castle
 

GROCKLE

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I've been think about my photo book, usually they are chronological, however I think in the case of a PWD then it is maybe better to start with the present and go back in time and maybe culminating on the last page with a repeat of the present day main family persons?