My Dad has Alzheimer's and had an 8 week hospital stay at the start of the year, followed by a 6 week respite at a care home where he has become a permanent resident. He struggled to settle initially but then seemed to have a period where he was getting on quite well but recently I have received several phone calls advising Dad isn't being co-operative or is distressed and can I talk to him. Previously when he has been this way I have been able to relax/pacify him but lately I spend the calls listening to what an awful daughter I am, how I am in cahoots with the staff at keeping him held prisoner, how he can't believe I could do this to him, how I've taken his family away from him and how he wants to live independently on his own but I'm trying to stop him.
I've tried everything I can think of. Telling him the truth, agreeing with him and apologising, explaining in detailw what's happened this year which has resulted in him ending up in care, saying I'll get him his own place but I can't do it straight away so to try and make the best of where he is and trying to explain why I can't visit or changing the subject completely but nothing helps.
I just wondered if anyone has any similar experiences or suggestions of what else I can try?
I've tried everything I can think of. Telling him the truth, agreeing with him and apologising, explaining in detailw what's happened this year which has resulted in him ending up in care, saying I'll get him his own place but I can't do it straight away so to try and make the best of where he is and trying to explain why I can't visit or changing the subject completely but nothing helps.
I just wondered if anyone has any similar experiences or suggestions of what else I can try?