I rang my mum on Tuesday. After the usual 30 minutes constant repetitive questions about bus times, lunch club, money she suddenly said 'do you have any children, I have two, never wanted them and they never do anything for me' I found myself shouting at her that I was her daughter and she never cared for her children or her grandchildren. I then told her she was an evil old cow and I wanted no more to do with her and told her to die and slammed the phone down. I have not felt able to visit or even call her since. I know she will have forgotten the call and we will be back to her usual rants, but I can't forgive myself for letting her get to me as she has done for over 50 years. My SIL has visited so I know Mum is OK. I will call her today and will not let her upset me no matter how much she tries. She is simply not worth it.