It's me again ...I've already asked about this and so has my sister, and I actually thought we were dealing better with These distressing situations , but it seems our mother still has the power to trigger our emotions; anxiety about our decision to put her in a care home, and most of all ..the feelings of guilt.
Tonight at around 8 pm I had a call from the home, saying mum wants to speak to me... very distressed and angry, pleading with me....
' i want to go home. Now listen tell me how I can organise a train, or a bus
. You don't have to take me, but I've been here long enough ..I don't need to be here any more.
And don't tell me I can't go home.. I've got to get back home.
Me..
'.mum we will talk about it tomorrow when I come in to see you.. I
Promise'
Mum angrily..
'No that's no good, I want you to organise it now please'
I must have repeated myself several times, and in the end she got very cross and cut me off.
Any ideas on how to deal with these conversations please ? They are very testing .
Thanks so much .
Tonight at around 8 pm I had a call from the home, saying mum wants to speak to me... very distressed and angry, pleading with me....
' i want to go home. Now listen tell me how I can organise a train, or a bus
. You don't have to take me, but I've been here long enough ..I don't need to be here any more.
And don't tell me I can't go home.. I've got to get back home.
Me..
'.mum we will talk about it tomorrow when I come in to see you.. I
Promise'
Mum angrily..
'No that's no good, I want you to organise it now please'
I must have repeated myself several times, and in the end she got very cross and cut me off.
Any ideas on how to deal with these conversations please ? They are very testing .
Thanks so much .