Hi all
Any tips for getting mam to agree to a haircut?
At my dad's request, I arranged for her to have her hair cut at my house today; yesterday I rang dad and said it was all set up and should I mention it to mam; he said yes. So I went round and mentioned it to her, she seemed amenable at the time, was having a good day. An hour after I got home the phone rang, mam in tears, had been very upset and didn't want her hair cutting after all. Dad came on, also very upset, said she'd been crying ever since I left, very distressed - so that was a good day ruined - but she really needs her hair cutting and he knows he'll have just the same performance next time it's mentioned.
I said to try to let her forget about it for the moment, but that I'd go round as planned today and just bring her back to my house ostensibly to see my daughter, which usually works. Hairdresser can then visit while she's here (both me and my daughter are being done too) and I'm hoping to get her to have her hair cut after all.
But how can I word it to her? If I just ask her straight, she's likely just to say "oh, no thanks, I'll leave it for the moment" and then get distressed if I push it. Then dad will be disappointed that I haven't managed to sort it, and of course we'll have to go through it all again shortly.
Last time she had her hair cut, in November, I took her to a salon, but that's another story.
I feel like I can't do right for doing wrong and I'm a bit upset. Well a lot upset actually.
Any tips for getting mam to agree to a haircut?
At my dad's request, I arranged for her to have her hair cut at my house today; yesterday I rang dad and said it was all set up and should I mention it to mam; he said yes. So I went round and mentioned it to her, she seemed amenable at the time, was having a good day. An hour after I got home the phone rang, mam in tears, had been very upset and didn't want her hair cutting after all. Dad came on, also very upset, said she'd been crying ever since I left, very distressed - so that was a good day ruined - but she really needs her hair cutting and he knows he'll have just the same performance next time it's mentioned.
I said to try to let her forget about it for the moment, but that I'd go round as planned today and just bring her back to my house ostensibly to see my daughter, which usually works. Hairdresser can then visit while she's here (both me and my daughter are being done too) and I'm hoping to get her to have her hair cut after all.
But how can I word it to her? If I just ask her straight, she's likely just to say "oh, no thanks, I'll leave it for the moment" and then get distressed if I push it. Then dad will be disappointed that I haven't managed to sort it, and of course we'll have to go through it all again shortly.
Last time she had her hair cut, in November, I took her to a salon, but that's another story.
I feel like I can't do right for doing wrong and I'm a bit upset. Well a lot upset actually.