Can anyone help. This last 2 weeks my husband has been refusing to shower or have a wash. He gets very nasty with me and says he will see to himself when he wants to and not when I ask him. I have had to help him shower and wash for at least 4 years now. If I walk away and say ok you just let me know if you need my help, he is still in his dressing gown and unwashed 2 hours later. Sometimes I leave it for a while and then start again, but he just sends me away. The other day I had to phone the dentist to say we may not get there for the appointment. In the end he finally agreed to wash and dress half an hoir before we had to leave. Also I have problems when he has his bowels open as timing is unpredictable and he doesn't clean himself. Sometimes he lets me clean him and other times sends me out of the room. I now never make an appointment for the morning as I hope I can get him sorted after lunch if not before. Can anyone advise please.x