I know several Ad sufferers have problems with personal hygiene and I wondered if anoyone has ant tips for dealing with this. Mum has decided she doesn't like baths or showers anymore. She does still have a regular and thorough strip wash and she isn't smelling or anything like that. However I know that this can lead to urinary infections etc. When I mentioned it to her geriatric community nurse she just said don't worry so long as Mum is washing. I think the woman is useless anyway everytime she come she projects her own grief(widow) onto Mum and goes on and on about how much Mum must be missing Dad until Mum ends in tears. Last time she was going on about pre-paid funeral plans and when I told her I know Mum has sufficient life insurance to take care of stuff like that she said it didn't matter as this way Mum could have exactly what she wanted. I told her Mum had already told me she would leave it all in my court but the darned woman still carried on. When we moved the planners would not let us build the extension as big a we had intended so there was no room for a shower in Mum's granny annexe. However we had the small bedroom converted into a bathroom with bath and a very large walk in shower. The idea of the large shower specifically took into account the future when Mum would need assistance. At first she blamed not beoing able to get in and out of the bath so we installed rails. Then it was that she had not had a bath in years (true) as they had always had an over bath shower. However she didn't want an over bath shower as she didn't feel safe standing in the bath. Eventually we moved onto not being able to stand long so we invested in a shower stool, and now she has confessed she has developed a fear of water. I'm not sure if she just feels awkward about using the bathroom as it is in "our" part of the house. We even put a specific shelf in thier and asked to to arrange her stuff on it so she felt it was her bathroom to but it's still empty. Am I worrying for nothing or should she be bathing/showering?