Until recently my OH with Alzheimer's has showered himself. For the last 10 days or so says he has done so but hasn't. Refuses help from me. Won't change his clothes unless I manage to hide the dirty ones, and wears the same underpants during the day that he sleeps in. Has started going to bed at 8.30 pm so consequently is up and down during the night. I have tried to talk things over with him but it always ends with me being stressed and him not affected. Anybody got any suggestions as to how to get round this? He is supposed to be going to a day centre today for the first time but although he agreed to this when the manager came a few days ago I'm not sure he will agree when they come for him. He keeps talking about the fact that we must work together, do things together, so I am not sure that he will co-operate. The reluctance to wash etc happened well before the day care was mentioned, otherwise I would have thought it was a reaction to that. Am at my wits end to know how to cope. He also refuses his medication even though I constantly remind him of that. Help!