My "perfect" sister came yesterday and mum,as usual, more poured out all her criticisms of me and how unhappy she is. Just can't win, she comes for 1/2 an hour so can't possibly do anything for mum but quite happy to listen to all mum's moans. Yet again this morning I got up at six to get mum up so she has a wee, striped most of the bedding cos it was wet & put it on to wash, changed mum & got her tea & pills, remade bed, all before the carer came because they won't start before 7.30 am and I can't leave mum all wet til they come. Carer commented to mum how good I was and mum's comment was that my sisters wouldn't agree - thanks mum. Afraid I snapped when getting her dressed and said the "perfect" daughter wasn't here today and she would have to put up with me instead !
"She's" said she wants mum at theirs Christmas Day - is it so wrong of me to hope she plays them up and refuses food ( which my sister says is just a matter of eating with her & encouraging) tells them that she doesn't like what she always liked and says "yes" to everything and then does the exact opposite ? Is it wrong to hope that they have a wet chair and have to spend ages looking for the thing that mum has lost ( which was never with her in the first place) ? Don't get me wrong I would like mum to have a nice day, even if she won't have any idea what the day is but I do, so desperately, want them to have a taster of my daily life. Have given up on sympathy or help but really really could do without the criticism and superior attitude.
Sorry for moan it just gets me down when things aren't going well and then I have to deal with Mum's mood after her visit - it stirs her up too much "thankfully" it's only once every few months and never when I'm home - I don't think the blood pressure could stand it !
"She's" said she wants mum at theirs Christmas Day - is it so wrong of me to hope she plays them up and refuses food ( which my sister says is just a matter of eating with her & encouraging) tells them that she doesn't like what she always liked and says "yes" to everything and then does the exact opposite ? Is it wrong to hope that they have a wet chair and have to spend ages looking for the thing that mum has lost ( which was never with her in the first place) ? Don't get me wrong I would like mum to have a nice day, even if she won't have any idea what the day is but I do, so desperately, want them to have a taster of my daily life. Have given up on sympathy or help but really really could do without the criticism and superior attitude.
Sorry for moan it just gets me down when things aren't going well and then I have to deal with Mum's mood after her visit - it stirs her up too much "thankfully" it's only once every few months and never when I'm home - I don't think the blood pressure could stand it !