Peace at last
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I'm so sorry for your loss. It has has been a difficult road for you but I am glad that your mother is at peace and that your memories will eventually be of happier times.
I hope you can now find peace of mind and heart. xxx
I hope you can now find peace of mind and heart. xxx
So sorry to hear of your loss, she is now at peace. Sending you love and strength for the coming weeks and months. x
Thank you so much. I have no idea what I would have done without the love and support from TP over th years.
Last night I slept for nearly 12 hours which is unheard of as I usually manage on 4-5 hours. I'm slowly sorting things out but every so often I look at the clock and think I had better go and feed Mum. I have got such a tight lid on things that I am slightly worried when the lid finally comes off.
Last night I slept for nearly 12 hours which is unheard of as I usually manage on 4-5 hours. I'm slowly sorting things out but every so often I look at the clock and think I had better go and feed Mum. I have got such a tight lid on things that I am slightly worried when the lid finally comes off.
Don't worry about when the "lid comes off" just go with it. Holding it in, as you know, isn't good for anyone.
Hugs xxxxx
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2jays is right. And it will probably not be a once off. Three months after William's death, I came across a dvd we used to enjoy watching together before he went to the nursing home. It was in a box of dvds under my bed. I just sat there on the floor and sobbed until I was sick. Not pretty, but it needed to get out.
Yeah, I had it about 10 days ago. Was tidying up and went to move OHs memory books. Made the mistake of starting to read one.........ended up screaming I HATE DEMENTIA and a few choice words and clutching a couple of boxes of HIS matches ( he was a pipe smoker), and then hiding them so no one could touch them!!
And yet usually I'm absolutely fine!
And yet usually I'm absolutely fine!
I've nailed the lid on the box marked grief and kicked the box under the bed. 6 weeks and I'm still holding myself in. I seem to have decided that if I don't think about it then it never happened and Mum is still with us. It's not that I can't cope with Mum's death, I just can't cope with who I am after all these years.
Now I've confused myself.
Now I've confused myself.
I wouldn't presume to know exactly how you are feeling Lemony as people's reactions to loss can be different according to their experiences in life. However death after dementia is not like any other death and we who have shared the painful years with those we love are left forever changed.
It is still very early days for you and I'm sure it will take time to adjust to the lifting of the responsibility which has been on your shoulders for so long as well as coping with the loss of someone you love. You have had difficult times too and these take their toll on relationships with others as so many here have found.
You have been strong but I hope a time will come when you feel able to let go and that there will be someone there to hold your hand when it does. No doubt it will come when you least expect it but TP be here should you ever need a hug. xxx
It is still very early days for you and I'm sure it will take time to adjust to the lifting of the responsibility which has been on your shoulders for so long as well as coping with the loss of someone you love. You have had difficult times too and these take their toll on relationships with others as so many here have found.
You have been strong but I hope a time will come when you feel able to let go and that there will be someone there to hold your hand when it does. No doubt it will come when you least expect it but TP be here should you ever need a hug. xxx
So sorry, I missed this.
I missed hearing your news. I was visiting my sister in South Africa, I only popped in once or twice, and I missed this. I am so sorry and so relieved that your Mum has had the torment of Dementia lifted. I have walked a similar path to you, taking support from those who understood what I was going through. I have sighed out my frustrations, my anger and my sadness here, and I have had such wonderful friendship in return. I hope that you can come to terms with everything that has been thrown at you, and that one day you can gain the peace you deserve. Your Mum was loved and supported by you right to the end....and now she has gone on to her rest.
I hope you can believe that you could never have done more for Mum and that now, this is your time.
With love and sympathy..... Maureen.x.
I missed hearing your news. I was visiting my sister in South Africa, I only popped in once or twice, and I missed this. I am so sorry and so relieved that your Mum has had the torment of Dementia lifted. I have walked a similar path to you, taking support from those who understood what I was going through. I have sighed out my frustrations, my anger and my sadness here, and I have had such wonderful friendship in return. I hope that you can come to terms with everything that has been thrown at you, and that one day you can gain the peace you deserve. Your Mum was loved and supported by you right to the end....and now she has gone on to her rest.
I hope you can believe that you could never have done more for Mum and that now, this is your time.
With love and sympathy..... Maureen.x.
