Apologies if this has been addressed before but I'd appreciate some guidance. For a whole host of reasons, I've not got POA for mum. She's middle stage Alzheimers and although we discussed POA before, I didn't get very far with it, partly because when I told her how much the solicitor had quoted, she simply refused on the grounds it was too expensive. I know I should have done it myself at the time but my own problems (bereavement etc.) meant it seemed to slip to the back of the pile. Now when I discuss it with her, sometimes she's convinced we already have it in place and at other times she wants to talk to a solicitor. Aside from the fact that I'm doubtful that a solicitor will deem her to have capacity, I'm worried that if I make an appointment to see a solicitor and she either fails to convince him she understands and/or she refuses to pay, will I be left with the bill? I've had to reduce my working hours to care for her and my income has dropped by two thirds. Couple with some other issues, I simply don't have any savings or money to pay for proper legal advice. On a second but related subject, she has now at least partially agreed that a care home is now required. This is a huge relief to me as I'm finding caring for her beyond my capability, not least because the phone calls every few seconds at times of the day have driven me to breaking point. Social Services aren't interested in helping when they find out she owns her own home so I'm doing this all on my own. If she refuses to pay (and I don't have POA) will I have to pay her care home fees? I'm already paying for two days of daycare a week as she felt the cost too much (she can afford it but won't pay) and, coupled with her forgetfulness when paying for shopping I get for her, it's bankrupting me! Sorry, this sounds a bit pathetic, but I'm really struggling with this stuff.